Real Girl For Hire

By: Meryl Otis Kessler (View Profile)

I know because I have decided it’s time to reenter the workforce. 

I figure as long as I’m getting back on the career track, I’ll do something big. What? Is that skepticism I see in the eyes of prospective employers? Even at places that proclaim to offer women that elusive work/life balance? My old crown may be dulled, but my mind isn’t. My old business cards are long gone, but the skills aren’t. In fact, they have increased. I can now juggle better than most, and far better than I ever thought possible in myself. Just because I took time off from a paycheck didn’t mean I took a vacation from reading, brainstorming, thinking, dreaming. 

I hear voices. 

Is it my mother again? “Don’t doubt yourself. You had tremendous skills and business success before you had kids; your children have dulled neither your brain nor your instincts. Go, be part of a movement to change the working world so that smart women can opt back in with ease, with grace.” No, that isn’t the voice of my mother. It’s the voice of this mother. 

This once-proven media princess, once on the way to being crowned queen. Myself. I believe in me. I simply need to find better ways to convince others of those facts. New realities in our lives warrant a new movement, and a voice to go with it. I want to be part of a new “wave”—one that turns our shared thoughts and discussions into ACTION. The conversations are universal, among working and stay-at-home moms. They are taking place everywhere: in the pre-school parking lot after we drop off our children; at Starbucks; on the soccer field; and yes, at the water cooler and in the boardroom. No matter which side of the fence you’re on, the challenges are equally great. So what is all the talk about? 

Since 1963 and Friedan’s vision for women, we’ve turned heads. Yes, we’ve come a long way, baby! We have learned to be exceptionally good in the workplace; we have learned to be exceptional mothers. We have enjoyed both worlds. Some of us have learned amazing skills at balancing the two together, and almost guilt-free. We have earned not only the right but also much respect for taking the off-ramp to raise a family. Sadly, we have not yet found a clear roadmap for that steep on-ramp after getting those children to school age. 

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posted: 08.09.2007
Missy Ferwerda
'Big' can come in so many forms. Big is being the propriety or your own bakery-albeit it unprofitable and your business cards have coffee stains on them. Big is leaving Wall Street to follow your passion of music and teaching violin at inner city after-school programs. Big is being confident in your decision to stay at home with your children and keeping that confidence when it's time to go back to work. You went Big and you'll continue to go Big!
posted: 02.02.2007
Sharonda Penn
That was extremely refreshing to read. It is so wonderful that you have decided and pursing an interest to re-entering into the workforce. I just hope that it's not as hard for you as it has been for me. The best part of you re-entering into the workforce is allowing your children to see mom working, being independant, and doing her "thing". Believe me they will be just as proud of their mom as you should be of yourself. Good Luck.
posted: 02.01.2007
Julie Brownfield
Great article! Thank you for sharing.
posted: 01.27.2007
Off  Theramp
Throw away the tiara, Meryl, unless you've got a direct connection to Disney. Who needs those inherited titles anyway? Any employer who looks askance at the fact that you took time off to to work your butt off at a job whose remuneration will never make the mortgage payment is an employer you don't want to work for. Something wonderful is going to come your way without the help of a fairy godmother.
posted: 01.25.2007
Sue Jacobs
Thank you, Meryl, for a piece that speaks volumes to the executive mom in all of us, who proudly shout YES! There IS a lapse of time on my resume because I was busy being a mother! I have faith in you to navigate that bumpy on ramp and get back into the cruising lane. Please submit another article so we can ride along with you!! Sue
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