San Francisco: Why I Live Here

By: Rebecca Brown (View Profile)

I’ve always heard that when you find The One, you just know; you feel it deep within your gut.

I’d lived in San Francisco for two weeks when I pulled up to the intersection of Castro and 18th with my best friend, Shane, who’d also recently moved here. As we waited for the light to turn green, we silently watched the flurry of activity happening on each corner: an elderly, shirtless tranny wearing a pink boa and hot pants on one corner, the Cheer for Life cheerleaders building a pyramid on another, a small group carrying protest signs and petitions on another corner, and two hot gay men making out in front of a puppy adoption center on the last corner.

And that’s when I knew. I was in love—with an entire city. San Francisco was The One for me.

Those corner activities might not seem like a big deal to most people. But I grew up in the South, where “gay” is still a dirty word in some places and nice southern girls are taught to mind their Ps and Qs and just generally not cause a fuss, let alone lead a protest. So that thirty-second vignette of SF life left me breathless with excitement for what was to come … and I wasn’t disappointed.

Seven years and seven San Francisco neighborhoods later, I’m still as in love with the city as I was that day in the Castro. On several occasions, my continued residency here has been uncertain (thank you very much, dot.com layoffs), but I’ve fought Mike Tyson-style for the privilege to pay through the nose—an average rental price of $2261 per month for a one-bedroom—to stay here. With prices like that, most non-SF residents probably wonder why it’s worth it. But those of us lucky enough to live here know exactly why we persevere.

For example, not a single day has passed since living here that I haven’t found something new to admire; a hidden staircase, a quaint alley, an undiscovered view, a beautiful mural, an unexplored street, or a tucked-away park. Track housing is unheard of in San Francisco, making every journey out an adventure because no two buildings look the same, thanks to the varying architecture and intricate paint jobs.

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posted: 10.08.2007
Amanda Coggin
About to come up upon 12 years here and I can't believe it. Sure, I've left the city some years to see what else might tempt me, but always come home. Only here could I pull items out of my closet easily in order to create a costume in an hour. Only here could I meet new people every weekend. Only here could I hang with the courageously creative and those seeking to find the best slice that is deep within themselves. On Saturday, I sat on a sailboat singing "City by the Bay" with a friend at the bow, that night I went to the opening gala of Litquake to honor our very own Baghdad by the Bay author, Armistead Maupin, where a drag queen sang the same song, then last night, while I walked the crazy streets of Burning Man's Decompression party, a girl belted it out over karaoke. And I thought to myself, "this city is trying to remind me to keep it close." San Francisco is a place where you can reinvent yourself time again, and everyone loves the new version as much as as the old.
posted: 10.08.2007
Darren Maddox
You hit the nail on the head here. It is sometimes a struggle to live here, but I cannot imagine leaving this city behind. I've honestly found myself here and never want to be lost again. There's something so special about this place that it draws peoople to visit from all over the world. There's something magnetic that keeps the lucky ones here.
posted: 10.06.2007
Sarah Sibley
Um, I cried. Honestly. And I agree whole-heartedly with Deepi. Had I never lived in San Francisco (twice) I never would have become half the woman I am today. The thing is, San Francsico, with all its weirdness and uniqueness, forces you to find yourself. If you don't, you get lost or blend in. Both, of which, are horrible ways to live in this one-of-a-kind city. Only my husband loves me as much as SF does. It loves me so much that after I moved away, it lured me back only 6 months later. It just knew we weren't done with our relationship yet. Like the most comfortable sweater, SF (not Frisco, not San Fran) will always fit me.
posted: 10.06.2007
Deepi Ghoman
(sigh) You really summed it up there, RBrown. San Francisco has a way of charming the pants off any lady, self included. Though I'd moved there to pursue my dreams of becoming an Art Director, I became so much more just by living there. No other city has inspired me and helped me grow as SF has. San Francisco is my long-distance lover. Hopefully one day we'll be reunited once again.
posted: 10.05.2007
Suha Araj
Thats right woman. As an Ohio girl who grew up near the wave pools, living near the real ocean is still a novelty. If your bored in this town, its your own damn fault. I moved here 6 years ago and the City opened up its heart to me and hasn't let me down since. If we ever split (sigh) up I will always think of San Francisco as the one who got away and my new love will always be just a little bit jealous of our relationship. Where else in the world is naked an outfit?
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