Praise Junkie

Great concept. And educationally very sound. Google Alfi Kohn. Thank you. I have been writing about it myself, lately. Here's an except from a future "From the Principal" article:“Normally, parents and teachers act according to an apparent theory that praise builds self- esteem or that ‘nothing succeeds like success.’ The truth is that nothing succeeds like taking responsibility. Nothing succeeds like struggle. Nothing succeeds like failure. Self-esteem is built by a high incidence of turning a desire into a goal, a goal into a plan, and then persevering. Success that strengthens is success that meets ones own standards not someone else's. Praise can feel good, but heavy doses of it can actually weaken self-esteem as self-esteem is given over to others.” I love "Praise Junky."

Never have been a people pleaser, could care less, but am defintely a praise junkie, my whole world is better, when I am being affirmed, am very sure that I went into nursing for that reason, as we get a lot of praise, in this field, can see where one can easily be addicted to it, but that sure is a better addiction than booze or drugs, so guess I will keep it, I think there is probably a lot of us, out there???

Thank you, thank you. I am not a people pleaser, I am a praise Junckie? I can think of a thousands of reasons why I seek praises, and why I need it so bad, but I will not make excuses. I believe in my heart that its okay to hear people say thank you, or good job. Complements go along way. Most of the time, I am pretty much over looked so I pretty much encourage myself. I really enjoy doing as much as I can to help others. However, I believe prasises are kept from me so that I do not seek for it all the time. I get good evaluations on the job, but I never get the praise of Oustanding Employee of the Year or month, or even honored as Pastor Goodman's wife. So deep in my soul, I have to believe in myself! My husband gets all the praises in my opinion, people love him, and they are so willing to do whatever they can to help, I am blessed being married to him. So, when I do get a praise or two, or somebody giving attention to my outward attarctiveness, It really pleases me.