Intimate Diary of an On-Line Dater, Week 2

“I really felt a real connection with this guy and I’d go out with him again.” That’s Susan summing up a date she went on this past Sunday. It was one of two dates the 42-year-old physical trainer went on during her second week of match.com. Suffice to say – Week Two went much better than Week One, (yeech, I’m still having nightmares over Mr. Attractive)!

Week Two started out slowly. “I didn’t go to match.com as much this week as I did the first week. I needed a break. But, one night, I “winked” at seven guys to show interest. I got four winks back. To tell you the truth, it’s a weird feeling when they don’t wink back, but I’m trying to take my ego out of it. I know it’s not always about me.”

“I also talked to three guys I’d been emailing with on phone. Each time, within three minutes, I knew I had no interest in meeting them. Just got a bad vibe.”

“For example, during one phone call, I was multi-tasking. I was on the phone and cooking dinner because I had a short window before my next training session. He said, ‘Do you mind putting everything down and giving me your full attention?’ I said, ‘I kind of do. I have client in hour and I have to eat.’ It just felt like we were starting out on the wrong foot.”

“During another call, the guy whispered. He spoke so softly, as if he was trying to emphasize that he was very together and grounded. That was not my impression. I felt like he must have had bad energy. Couldn’t wait to get off the phone.”

The divorcee’s first date of the week was with a guy she wasn’t really very attracted to. “His photo wasn’t that great. But I liked some things about him and he sounded nice. I also know it’s possible to not, initially, be attracted to someone, but they grow on you and a physical attraction can develop. I thought I’d give it shot.”

Saturday night Susan and Date Number One met at sushi restaurant. “He was a lovely guy, just as he sounded, but the bottom line was that I was not attracted to him at all. At the end of the night, he walked me to my car and asked if I’d see him again. I felt uncomfortable being completely honest, so I said sure, but added that I’d just started match.com and I was going on a lot of dates. He called the next day, and I just won’t call him back.”