The messages are clearly boiling down to one thing: singlehood is something to be rescued from.
Why is being solo considered so-low?
Single people are vilified, assumed to be selfish. But I argue that marriage makes people more selfish. Families can make people more selfish—sure, equity is great but my kid better get more playing time or yes, I agree our schools should be cleaned up but I’m sending my kid to a private school.
I know plenty of single folk who dedicate their time not to accumulating wealth and gifts to be bestowed on their family, but to those in need. The Big Brothers and Sisters programs throughout the country thrive on single volunteers.
Historically, single people have changed the course of the world. Queen Elizabeth I established and ruled the English empire, Jesus did some pretty impressive things for spirituality and humankind, and Oprah Winfrey—someone who seems to be more popular than both of them combined—has done some pretty amazing things.
Despite the positive contributions single people give society, singledom is still a condition to escape from.
The ever-increasing prevalence of dating sites imparts that they can help us find that mate we’re all searching for. Some guarantee it. (By the way, I’ve read statistics that say 35 percent of people on dating sites are MARRIED!)
Even though this doesn’t usually happen, I say it would do the world a lot more good to exchange a few of those dating sites for Web sites to help keep and maintain current relationships. Where are all the Web sites to help couples stay together? Or do these sites actually prefer to keep us all single? After all, they benefit from more subscribers and tell us our dream date awaits in the pages of their site.
I don’t mind dating sites. They can be a nice alternative to bars. (By the way, I almost wrote “singles” bars here which implies a hint of desperation and immaturity.) Just for clarification, aren’t most bars “single?” Are there married bars? Do they check your driver’s license and your ring finger at the door? Do they close at 9 p.m. so they can get home and put the kids to bed?
