A Single Problem

Dating sites offer options and options are good. But my problem is that the focus is on the hunt. I say keep working on yourself and accept your singlehood with pride. Even if you don’t find someone, you’re already with someone you want to be with.

There was a “happiness” study I once read about that said right after marriage, a couple’s overall happiness rating increased. Three years later, their happiness was right back to where it was before they were married. Some people were more miserable than when they were alone. They’ve been duped. Being in a relationship is not a panacea for our problems. We can’t believe everything we see in the movies.

My point here is not to denounce marriage or even serious relationships. Some people’s lives are greatly enhanced by their relationships. That’s great. Though many people love chocolate or the New York Yankees, that doesn’t mean everybody does—like diabetic Red Sox fans, for example.

Maybe we should pay tribute to all the non-marriages. But instead of expensive ceremonies, let’s give a congratulatory nod to those who aren’t in a poor relationship with an inattentive spouse, an abusive mate, an unsupportive boyfriend, or a controlling, life-sucking wife.

Singlehood is not just a waiting period to be endured until Mr. or Mrs. Right comes along to save you from your lonely life. It is a time to take advantage of, embrace, and enjoy in its own special way.

Explore the world and yourself. So when “they” say things like “Don’t you want someone who just knows you? Who accepts you for who you are? Who knows your strengths and weaknesses? That special someone who’s in your corner no matter what?” You’ll already have found them.

Well, it’s time, I’m finally ready to make a proposal.

Here goes. I drop to bended knee and with my most sincere look, I say with voice cracking, “You’ve been there for me through thick and thin, good days and bad days, and I want you to know I’m in love with… being single. Will you accept that?”

If you say yes, you’ll make me a very happy (single) man.