Which brings me back to the ole “friend zone.” Many girls will tell me that the reason I was put in the “friend zone” was because I didn’t make it known that I was interested by making a move fast enough. Apparently, if I’m interested in a girl I need to kiss her practically as soon as possible. Whatever happened to getting to know someone before taking that first step? I think the biggest problem with relationships ending quickly is that people rush into them too fast. They jump to the physical parts of a relationship long before they have any solid ground to stand on.
I truly believe a relationship will last far longer and be far more enjoyable if a good friendship is established first. Afterall, I would expect my future wife to also double as my best friend. So it would only make sense to make sure that this person is a good friend (and therefore, a good person) before truly making any moves, right?
I believe there’s a constant fallacy that intimacy has to do with sexual interaction, when on the contrary it simply means to have an affectionate, loving, and deep understanding with another person. Who do you know better than your best friends?
Well, the physical parts of a relationship are all good fun, but they’re not fulfilling. I’m looking for more than that and I will continue to search for that, even if it puts me in many more “friend zones.”
Hell, go ahead and put me in the “friend zone,” and even label me a nice guy. Because, if avoiding being put in the “friend zone” means losing my respect, integrity, and honor of who I am and how I treat others, then I’m doing quite all right with where I am.
Remember ladies, in any given time, you’ll probably meet far more jerks looking for a one-night stand then you will nice guys. Why? Because the nice guys are usually the ones who don’t make the moves and are less aggressive. It’s not that they’re shy or not interested, but because they respect themselves and most of all, they respect you.
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