The 4-Way: Sometimes Limp Is Hard

The gay man’s perspective: Darren Maddox

I say get in his pants if you want to know what’s really going on down there. Once you’re south of the belt line, if things aren’t on the rise, it will make it very easy for you to bring up the lack of attention from the little tin soldier if he’s a softie! If that’s too much to think about, rest easy in the possibility that he could have an insane ex or two at that age and he may be a little freaked out by relationships at this point. What could be even worse for him is the feeling of having to end it if he gets into something that he feels is going downhill.

Now about the gay thing, unless you feel like a real trophy gal strapped onto his side for guest appearances, I’d give up on that theory.

My advice is to give him a few more weeks, continue to be the aggressive one in the relationship and see where it goes. Dress up, go out, and have fun! And if you continue to notice you are more into him than he appears to be into you, don’t wait for him to be the one to say things aren’t working out. You’re in control and as long as you remain that way, you’ll come out on top no matter what happens.

The straight man’s perspective: Chris Kennedy

Run. Run as fast as you can in those rocker/hooker heels. By the way, which rocker where you dressed as? Joan Jett? Pat Benatar? One of the Heart sisters? Nancy or Ann? (This plays heavily into his arousal factor.)

Regardless if you dressed like one of the Wilson sisters (who make up the group Heart, by the way) they have the answer in the form of a question in their hit title, “What About Love?” They sing, “What about love? Don’t you want someone to care about you?”

I assume your answer to their refrain is yes.

I, like you, can’t get around his arousal, or lack thereof. You’ve already tried to bring it up and he didn’t really respond—in every sense of the word.