The way I see it is this; if I wanted to pass notes back and forth with someone all day I’d re-live third grade. I evolved in my mode of communication and hope the others in my life have as well.
The straight woman’s perspective: Rebecca Brown
For the love of laziness, I have no idea. I’m fine with it for utilitarian purposes (“I’m on my way!”), but I hate it for dating. Maybe I’ve got a little too much Charlotte York in me, but I think it’s absolutely inappropriate to ask someone out on a date via text unless you’ve already crossed the line to boyfriend or girlfriend and have seen each other naked. Doing so before then—at least with me—decreases chances of said nakedness. I don’t understand why people (men, in my case) don’t get this: treat me like a lady and eventually—if you’re lucky—I will not act like one. (And you can quote me on that.)
The straight man’s perspective: Chris Kennedy
Did you text this question? LOL! OMG JK ;)
I’m a non-texter, so this colors my answer. Yes, texting has a place. A very small one: You’re in a crowded bar, you’re on mandatory voice rest, you’re held captive and your voice would alert the guards and bring on more torture.
Otherwise, I agree, stop texting and start talking.
Especially as far as dating is concerned. A phone call must be returned with a phone call.
If you text, you’ve just spelled out the end of the relationship. TTL.
Read Part One of February’s 4-Way column.
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