The 4-Way: Check, Please

By: The 4-Way Panel (View Profile)

My advice to you—and to all of us who are confused about the payment issue out there—is to get a little more involved in the planning. Suggest something fun and affordable so if you end up paying, you’ll have a good time no matter what and won’t feel miffed for spending $50 on some overcooked lamb and a dud of a date.

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posted: 02.25.2008
Sunshowers
Totally agree with the 4-Way. If if were the other way around and I asked a guy out on a date, I'd do so fully expecting to pay, and leave bill-splitting for subsequent dates.
posted: 04.16.2007
Veronica Kavanagh
My rule of thumb is that the person asking pays, although it never hurts to offer to pick up the tip. I am not in favor of expensive first dates anyway. Too much pressure and expectation, not enough fun. One of my best first dates ever was at a hole in the wall chinese restaurant followed by a long walk to the water. We sat on a retaining wall and saw a shooting star. A great memory and not a wallet buster, either.
posted: 04.14.2007
Whitney Hayes
If the guy can't pay he shouldn't SAY: "Will you have dinner with me?" I'm all for the guy paying on the first date and every date thereafter.
posted: 04.13.2007
Dayna Shaw
First a shout out to the 4-Way Panel: Wooden shoes. A lunch offer in Austin. The manners his mamma gave him. An unfiltered Marlboro and a shot of Wild Turkey. I am seriously enjoying how the 4 of you express yourselves. I've been in Mizz Austin's shoes (not wooden, of course), and agree that it's disheartening and deflating when the guy goes all cheap on you. Where is the romance in "wanna split the bill?". Even modern gals like the romance in the guy acting like a gentleman. She spends time getting ready, getting her make-up just so, picking out the right dress/shoes/necklace/perfume -- it just seems like the guy could play his part by ponying up for at least a drink or a pizza or something that he can afford on the first date. The same people that are running after Rebecca will probably run after me for saying as much, but that's my straight, single gal response for what it's worth!
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