The 4-Way: What’s Your Number?

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The straight woman’s perspective: Rebecca Brown

Has a woman ever asked you if she looks fat? Did you answer? And if so, did you answer honestly? Because if you did, that was pretty stupid. I think the sexual partner question is one that never needs to be asked or answered. If I find out you’ve had 150 partners, I’m going to think you’re a part-time porn star; if I find out you’ve had one partner, I’m going to wonder why no one wants to sleep with you. (Sorry, I’m just being honest.) It’s a no-win. I think the information people really want when they ask that question is “do you have disease-infested private parts that do not need to be touching my clean private parts?” That question absolutely needs to be asked before you get it on. If you want our take on how to do that, check out last month's column. You really should subscribe to this 4-Way thing, LL. We’re pretty insightful people, if I do say so myself.

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posted: 12.12.2007
Cally inCA
After years and years of being in a committed relationship I still haven't asked my guy "his number". Its strange-we've talked about our past sexual partners and I definitely know many more than I, yet we never will just blantly state a number. I never wanted to compare numbers becuase I didn't want it to jepordize the amazing relationship we have. Maybe he has had many partners and I will start regretting that I haven't had more, you know-just to kept things even? Or I will feel intimidated by his past experience and start wanting to increase my number potentially ruining our relationship. I think we'll kept avoiding it for now.
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