I’m going to get Talmudic on you now. If not now, when? It’s a good sign you’re ready to date. You want companionship. You want to love and to be loved. You wanna date? Date. Life’s too short. You don’t need a piece of paper to tell you when your relationship is over. You’ve been without romance for a while, so I see why you’re eager. Go out and look. (Note: I’ve never read the Talmud and probably never will—some versions are 5,900 pages. But if you do and find any more dating advice gems, let me know. Cosmo ain’t cuttin’ it lately.)
It probably won’t happen right away but that’s okay, don’t fret. Use this time to really figure yourself out before you jump into another relationship or another marriage that doesn’t work.
You are on the rebound whether you feel you are or not.
Now, let’s say you get some dates. Some will say you should tell him your situation. I agree. Not necessarily on the first date, but when it seems appropriate. I don’t think you need to force it but it also feels like you’re hiding something if you don’t mention it and he finds out some other way.
Not being honest with your date or yourself, that is poor taste. That’s probably in the Talmud too.
Read Part Two of June’s 4-Way column.
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