The straight man’s perspective: Chris Kennedy
Hey, I’m all for being adventurous, and from the sound of it, so are you two. But I’m not at all into making someone do something she’s not comfortable with. You’ve set a boundary (and it doesn’t sound like you set many) and your boyfriend has to respect that. He’s the one being selfish and greedy and he needs to back off … literally.
That said, it is interesting that someone as open-minded as you won’t do something that seems relatively equal to some of the other sexual activities you’re undertaking. So your reticence may be confusing to him. Maybe you want to explain this more thoroughly to him.
I’m wondering why you’re against this. Don’t take this the wrong way but you have every right not to want to do the anal thing, but perhaps since you’ve set a precedent of promiscuity with this guy, he may be led to believe that with a little nudging … he can do a little more nudging.
Be really clear that this is not something you can be talked into … in more than one way. (Sorry, these bun puns are too easy.)
It’s important that you don’t get behind on this because if you do, you’re going down a slippery slope. (I’m terrible and I must be stopped.)
Consider this: if someone is given many toys (not necessarily those kinds of toys!) to play with, that person runs the risk of decreasing his or her appreciation for them. If someone is only given a few toys to play with, he or she is likely going to experience a heightened appreciation of those toys. I might recommend cutting down on the carte blanche of your relatively new (four months) sex life with this partner and getting back to the basics. It might be the best way to ensure that your best times are in front of you.
The gay man’s perspective: Darren Maddox
Tell him you’ll try it if he’ll try it. When he tilts his head to the side and gives you that “but how could we do that” look, tell him they make all kinds of things that would allow him to experience the same sort of sensation he’s asking you to experience. Hell, they even make things that would allow you to experience it at the same time. When he says, “But I don’t really want to do that,” you’ll have your sweet revenge.
