The straight man’s perspective: Chris Kennedy
Asking your gynecologist out would just be stirring-up trouble. Ba dum bum. There was an opening and I had to take it. Bad dum bum. Sorry, had to get those out of the way.
Okay, as a straight male, I admittedly have very little experience with gynecologists, save the guy I saw in college wearing an “Amateur Gynecologist. Free exams today!” t-shirt.
Notwithstanding, I did have a young, attractive female doctor examine me once. While we had a pleasant conversation, it was awkward and it was hard to be completely honest. Sexual partner history? “Gosh, I really can only be with one woman … who I enjoy treating with respect, taking long walks on the beach with, and showering her with little thoughtful gifts. How about you?”
So I can relate a little bit to your predicament. I zipped my pants and my mouth and didn’t ask her out. I say you do the same. Yes, I think it would be weird to ask her out right now.
You’ll need to examine a few things of your own—above the waistline—before proceeding.
This doctor-patient relationship is not an appropriate one for potential dating—it seems unethical. I’d look into that before you consider contacting her, just to save you both from an uncomfortable conversation.
Also, is there a chance you’re misconstruing your enjoyable conversation as flirting as opposed to good beside manner? Consider this possibility strongly.
Should you bump into her at one of those great restaurants or movies you spoke of, you may get a better gauge of her interest level and see how you two interact outside of the exam room—when neither of you is in such a compromising position. Only then can you make a better diagnosis. Until then, have patience, patient.
The gay man’s perspective: Darren Maddox
I must say I’m a little out of my league on this one so I did what anyone would do in my situation: I Googled “annual pelvic exam.” Apparently, your annual pelvic exam is to make sure your reproductive organs are healthy while helping your health care provider detect any medical conditions that could lead to something more if not treated. Oddly enough, it mentioned NOTHING about developing a crush on your physician and wanting to get it on with her.
