First of all, are you sure she wasn’t just trying to make you feel more at ease while in her office by bringing up common topics like movies and restaurants? Or was she full-on flirting with you while checking under the hood? If you feel she was coming on to you and you’re interested in her, why not ask her out? You said she isn’t your regular gynecologist so what do you have to lose? Technically, I don’t think she can ask you out due to that whole client-patient relationship thingy (ridiculous) so you’ll need to make the first move. If she’s still the stand-in for your regular doc, fake an illness. Go see her again for confirmation. You’ll be in a quiet area (cold, but quiet) so you will be able to talk. Just before leaving, tell her you have to ask her something. Turn on the charm, tell her you feel really awkward about it, but you were wondering if she would like to check out one of the restaurants she was talking about sometime. If she says yes, you’re going to be happy. If she says she can’t, gracefully bow out, tell her you understand, and leave it at that. Then call to find out who will be examining you before going in again next time. Or find a new gynecologist.
The gay woman’s perspective: Jody Fischer
Hmm, such a lesbian quandary. Do you think gay guys ever get crushes on their proctologists? Believe it or not, I’ve heard this story from lesbians before, so know that you’re not the first to be attracted to your gynecologist. Although I hope that the pelvic exam etc. was a strictly clinical experience and not some patient/doctor fantasy.
Before you do any asking, get a new gynecologist and call the office to let her know that you will not be her patient any longer. Even is she is just a temporary doc, switch to a new office. That makes things “less messy” if you know what I mean. There’s a real boundary issue about doctors dating patients. It’s a balance-of-power issue and it’s not ethical.
