It’s interesting to me that you mention that “a guy needs some love.” It doesn’t sound like you two have a love connection at all. I’m feeling more of a power exchange taking place, with you as the one who does all touching and her being in a submissive role. And while you may find that hot for a while, it ain’t love.
GQ, if love is what you’re looking for, you need to find a woman you can reach out and touch and know that she will touch you back. That’s the way loves goes.
The gay man’s perspective: Darren Maddox
GQ, you don’t have a girlfriend right now. You have a friend that’s a girl. Do you understand the difference? Maybe the reason she won’t let you touch or kiss her is because she can play dirty on the side with you but not feel guilty about cheating on someone else.
You say that it’s okay for the most part, but it’s clear things are never going to change. Are you fine with that? Have you told her that? Until you have a very frank conversation that involves wanting to take your relationship to the next level, you’re stuck in instant replay my friend.
The most important thing I can advise is just talk to her. Find out what the rest of the story is. She might open up to you and tell you what the trauma was. After that, she might feel that she can be more open with you since you understand her and that could help take your relationship in the right direction.
Don’t rush things with her. Just get to know her and listen to her. Please understand that I’m not saying you have to be physical to be in a relationship, so hold the nasty emails, people. But, GQ, a guy and a girl both have needs.
The straight woman’s perspective: Rebecca Brown
GQ, I’m really confused. When you say you have a girlfriend, do you mean someone you’re dating? Or is she a girl (SPACE) friend who’s more of a friend with benefits? Because “girlfriend” and “get together occasionally” don’t really make sense together.
