The straight woman’s perspective: Rebecca Brown
I wish I was one of those hopeless romantics that would tell you that it will all be okay. But I’m not. I’m just bitter old me, packin’ my unfiltered Marlboro Reds, a shot of Maker’s, and my advice, which you probably won’t like, but here goes.
There’s more to a successful relationship than just love—you also have to consider things like timing and geography. And in long distance relationships, you need to have a plan, which might be something like this: we’re going to date for (insert the time limit of your choice here) and see how it goes. At that point, we’ll see how we feel and how it’s working. If we decide to keep going, we need to figure out what steps to take to be in the same place, wherever that may be.
Maybe the first step is to talk to your guy about creating a plan. Discuss how often you’d like to see each other and how the effort will be divided. How will you split up the traveling? Will you date other people while you’re apart or will you be exclusive?
It concerns me that you say you’re deeply in love with him, but he hasn’t admitted to having those feelings for you. I still think you should talk about a plan, but be prepared to be met with some beating around the bush. If he doesn’t jump at the opportunity to figure out how to make it work, don’t wait around for him. But don’t necessarily “try really hard” to find someone new, just for the sake of having someone. Just keep your heart open, and let the universe work its magic. Love will find you; you just gotta have faith. That’s what George Michael says anyway.
The straight man’s perspective: Chris Kennedy
In honor of you being from Texas, let me slip on my cowboy boots. (Grrr … they’re a little tight … ugh … ah, here we go.) Now, that I got ‘em on, prepare for a good ole Texas butt-kickin’.
