I was expecting you to say this guy moved halfway across the country or at least to another state. But two hours away?! Who breaks up with someone they’re deeply in love with—your words not mine—because their lover moves two hours away?!?! Inconvenient? Yes. Dealbreaker? No. Maybe this is the LA commuter in me talking, but two hours is like a neighbor to us Los Angelenos.
And here’s another kicker, you still continue to see him anyway!
Woman, you’re confusin’ me. I got a hunch you’re throwin’ around the word “love” like a rancher throwin’ a lasso at a wild herd.
You jumped out of this relationship quicker than a rodeo bull out of the shoot. The fact that you’re already trying to date other men is an indication that you’re ready to move on and not so deeply in love. But no one else has come along, so you go back to the well of your sure thing.
But NOW, your sure thing is ridin’ off further on down the road and you’re realizing that you’re alone.
You have to ask yerself, do you just want him cuz you don’t want to be a lonesome dove? Or do you really want his boots on your doorstep?
If you find he’s really someone you love, put everything you have into it. Four hours still ain’t that bad—couples lots father apart than that have made it work.
If you find you don’t really love him like you say, then you can end it and recommit yourself to finding someone new … within two hours of your homestead.
The gay woman’s perspective: Jody Fischer
Lots to consider here, BH. What’s up with the double negatives? “He doesn’t say that he doesn’t love me.” A double negative equals a positive. Translation: “He loves me.” Maybe, but he seems stuck. This guys needs to get into some good therapy and see what’s holding him back from connecting. His flesh may be willing, but his words are weak. But he isn’t asking for advice from us, you are—though I do wonder how he feels about the move and how he sees it affecting your relationship. Clearly it’s made you upset and wanting more of him. Does he still want to “not not love you” from afar?
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