Growing up, my mom told me to take note when people say they will try to do something. In her experience, when people say they will try, they do not believe that they will actually succeed at their task. Think about it. “I will try to love you.” But “I’m not sure if I’m up to it” can certainly be heard echoing through the words. I don’t really feel that you’re interested in trying really hard to meet someone else. You want this guy. Why you want a guy who is clearly afraid to move forward and is living in his past deserves a whole separate column.
If you’re really interested in seeing where things are with Mr. Move-Away, pull back in your contact with him. See if he’ll come forward to meet you. If not, you have your answer and you must do better than try to move on. You need to get out and find someone with whom you can build a relationship and don’t have to spend $100 on gas to see. You need a guy who is traveling on the road towards connection, not away from it.
Read Part One of October’s 4-Way column.
Read the September 4-Way column.
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