Friendship vs. Fire: The 4-Way

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posted: 11.28.2007
Sarah Sibley
Well Mary, allow me to retort. There's absolutely no judging here. In fact, it's what we're asking you not to do. You have your opinions, however narrow-minded, and we have ours. If I or any other commentors have accused you of anything it's pushing your "hetero or die" agenda instead of exercising tolerance and openness. There is not ONE way in this world Mary, or haven't you noticed all the skirmishes across the world where people are fighting for their way of life and their believes? The same applies to this subject. If all you're going to do is comment on your intolerance, I don't think anyone wants to hear it. Especially when you're not even interested in the subject matter at hand. I don't think anyone wants to hear your evangelizations about intolerance Mary E. Preece. Are you a evangelist? You are, aren't you? You're a Dobson-loving evangelist. Opps there I go, judging. Sorry 'bout that. I can't believe as a mother you wouldn't accept your child's lifestyle. Sad Mary. Very sad.
posted: 11.20.2007
Shannon Chambers
This site is great! We all get a chance to comment and express our own views. With that, I'll express mine. Although the 4-way responses were good, the one moving me to comment is Mary's below. Mary views being gay as a choice. For me she's 100% right! It's a choice to embrace who I am as opposed to feeling guilt my entire life from people who insist on using selected religious text to appear holier than thou. "Cast not the first stone unless you yourself are without sin" Mary. As a non-understanding mother, perhaps Mary should read last week's People. There's a great story about a devout mother refusing to understand her lesbian daughter. Only after her daughter hanged herself due to the mother's lack of acceptance did she even try. Comments like Mary's prove ingorance and prejudice are alive and well and encorage me to speak OUT. Oh, and Mary, even as an openly gay person, I'm loved by my family & friends. And this Thanksgiving we will give thanks that you are not my mother!
posted: 11.20.2007
Sarah Sibley
put a cork in in mary. this is a free world with free speech. people are allowed to love who they want, whenever they want. it goes back to that Free thing i was talking about. you wanna know what sin is? not accepting someone for who they are, no matter how they differ from you. I'm not acquainted with this Satan person, but sounds like he's got you running scared. I don't think that's anyway to live Mary E. Preece. Also, how do you know that two women aren't compatible in human form if you've never tried it? Gotcha there, didn't I Mary?
posted: 11.19.2007
Lisa.fm
I agree with Rebecca - If you're not feeling the 'spark' this far into the relationship - it's time to 'just be friends' or move on. Good luck, Confused!
posted: 11.18.2007
Lady Alice
I SO agree with Mary! These two women are being deceived and should get out of this immoral relationship immediately. God is very clear on this . You will never be happy living this way as your conscience will always be telling you no,no,no. Listen to your conscience.
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