The good news is that you’re having a lot of consenting, mutual, sexy fun with someone you care about. Pretty much everyone in the world is looking for that, JF. So relax and have fun, whatever kind of fun that may be.
PS: That whole “I can’t help it I’m horny” excuse is so 10th grade. I’m sure you know how to keep that snake in its cage if you need to.
The gay man’s perspective: Darren Maddox
JF, it’s her body and you have to respect that no matter what. However, it’s a little confusing to me that she’s willing to go anal and masturbate to porn with you, yet she lacks the desire to have vaginal sex due to religious beliefs.
You aren’t corrupting her. She’s already corrupted. It sounds like she’s just saving something special for one special person. If that’s you, then you’ll know it in time. If not, respect her wishes and thank God for porn.
Keep in mind that there are tons of options to vaginal sex and she sounds open to trying them. Rejoice, my friend! We hear from so many people with the exact opposite of your problem. They want to explore topics such as anal sex or porn with their partners and they don’t even know how to bring it up. Take this opportunity to explore yourself and your own creativity, as well as those of your girlfriend.
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