There are, of course, probably a few women in the world who really wouldn’t care, and maybe your ex is one of those women. Even so, I still say stay away from her friends. Swim in a different dating pool if you really value a genuine friendship with this woman.
The gay man’s perspective: Darren Maddox
First of all, if she’s interested in you, let her ask you out! She’s the one expressing an interest in you, after all. Or if you’re interested in her and you’re the one who always asks the girl out, then do it if you want to go out with her. You’re single and ready to mingle.
However, if you do go out with her be warned that it’s one thing for your ex to think she’s okay with you going out with her friend, but it may be quite another story when she sees you happily together. Emotions will likely come up that she never knew she harbored. Just be aware of that.
As far as your friends go, unless they know her friend better than you do, I would ignore their advice. Who knows? This holiday season could turn into Miracle on 34th Street or The Nightmare Before Christmas. Either way, if you want to take a chance, and you’ve discussed it at length with your ex girlfriend, then go for it.
The gay woman’s perspective: Jody Fischer
It’s funny, lesbians are notorious for dating friends of their exes and exes of their exes. It never quite sits right with me. Let me ask you to answer the following question to see if you’re really ready for this:
What are you most concerned about here?
A) Protecting yourself
B) Ruining the friendship between the two girls
C) Having them compare notes on you and how you kiss
D) All of the above
If you selected D, congratulations—that’s the correct answer! Let’s review all the answers in reverse order.
C) If you think that they won’t talk about you, you’re wrong. It will come up, I promise. They may discuss your assets, but I’m guessing they will spend more time talking about your ass and other intimate info.
