Since neither you nor your past mates have been able to help you orgasm, I’m guessing you’re not comfortable with yourself. This is a self-esteem issue. Masturbation has been called “self-love” and if that’s the case, it’s no wonder you can’t do it. You need more confidence in yourself before you can give yourself an orgasm. No masturbation technique that I—or probably anyone else—can tell you about will help you think better of yourself.
You need to do some things that will help make you feel good about yourself. You deserve this. Whatever your interests may be, pursue them further. Lose weight. Get a new haircut. Buy new clothes. Join a book club. Read fantasy/romance novels and short stories. I’m guessing you don’t get out much and that has to change. By doing that, I think your chances of finding a mate who’s willing to help you in this will be increased as well.
So make it a priority to get out and enjoy life. It will help you get in and enjoy yourself.
Read Part One of January’s 4-Way column.
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