The gay man’s perspective: Darren Maddox
I think sexual appetites come in all sizes. Some people have a tapas size appetite for loving, while others choose to Super Size it. You clearly fall in the latter category.
Six or seven times a week seems a little extreme to me, but maybe some of our readers feel differently. After reading your question, I conducted my own mini-survey of some close friends to find out more about their sexual habits. I was shocked to learn that one friend has sex with his partner every single morning and every single night without fail, while others reported that once a week was fine for them. It was all over the map.
That said, I think it all comes down to compatibility. If you’re both getting what you want out of your sex life, it’s a winner. If not, you need to back up and regroup, or move on.
Have you told him you want to have sex more often, or do you simply assume he should know that because he’s a guy? Do you make the moves or does he? Instead of looking for an argument or tactic, open up your lines of communication with him. That’s sexier than anything and will take you to another level of understanding beyond the sex.
Read Part Two of the March 4-Way.
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