Plan B) Go grab coffee together while you’re on a break from work to get to know him a little more. No harm, no foul.
Plan C) Have sex with him in the supply room while no one is looking and get it out of your system.
Whichever plan you choose, you’ll do the right thing if you go with your gut.
The gay woman’s perspective: Jody Fischer
I have several suggestions, yet I wonder how ready you are to hear them.
If you want to continue your office flirtation, here are a few points to consider: Can you handle working in the same space with him if things go sour? Has he been involved in office romances before? Can you withstand all the office gossip and co-workers knowing the intimate details of your dates? If you’re serious about being a professional, you won’t go far in your company if the word in the office is you did “xyz” in bed with so-and-so last night.
It is a plus that you’ve gone beyond his “date personality”—but you only know his “office personality.” And I don’t know about you, but I’m quite different at home than I am at work. You really have no idea who this guy is outside the office. In fact, all you know for sure is that he’s a good flirter and is gainfully employed.
EM, you need to have a life outside of work. If you have nothing going on outside of the office, you’re not only limiting your dating pool, you’re limiting your life. If you want to meet interesting guys, you have to have passions and interests of your own. So join a belly dancing class, learn to knit, take an exercise class. It doesn’t really matter what you do; simply choose something that catches your interest. Once you are engaged in life, you will meet engaging men.
Read Part Two of the April 4-Way.
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