Option three: Tell him what you did and confront him about what’s going on. Make him squirm. But beware, he’s going to try and make the whole discussion about what you did (snooping), not what he did (being a dirty, philandering piece of naked-picture-taking crap). Don’t let him. Probably the very events that made you suspicious enough to check his accounts are related to his little photography hobby.
Since this is your first relationship, let me say this: dating a guy who takes naked photos of other girls and who most likely has sex with them after is not the basis for anything meaningful. Dump his ass and don’t look back. But make sure you get back every single naked and/or suggestive picture of yourself before you confront him. Otherwise you might find yourself in a Kim Kardashian or Pamela Anderson kind of situation, only without the huge boobs and Baywatch reruns to comfort you.
The straight man’s perspective: Chris Kennedy
So you’re in your very first very serious relationship with someone you love very much, but he’s been inviting women to come over and get naked while he takes pictures of them and then has sex with them? So much for beginner’s luck, MS.
I’m going against the grain here of those who will scold you for snooping around. Trespassing on someone’s privacy is not good. But sometimes the end justifies the means. Let’s face it, had you not snooped, you would’ve continued on this false road for far too long.
One would argue you could have asked him if anything was going on before you went investigating, but I highly doubt this guy would’ve been honest with you. Guess you could’ve given him the chance, though.
Anyway, it sounds like he gave you due cause to sniff around. If someone enters your house without a search warrant and finds the dead person you’re responsible for killing, you’ve committed the greater crime and you’ve waived your right to cry foul about the intrusion.
Why are you willing to stay with this guy? Do you think telling him you know what he’s up to and expressing your disapproval of it is going to stop him? I don’t. He’s proven himself untrustworthy and I don’t think you’ll have any peace of mind with this guy if you let him convince you he won’t do it anymore. He will.
