You mention that this is your first serious relationship. Well, congratulations, you have yourself one serious problem. But it’s not the problem you think you have. You need to tell him what you know. If he twists it around and tries to make the issue your snooping, you have an even bigger problem.
MS, your boyfriend is cheating on you. What are you going to do about it? How long will you ignore it for the sake of just staying in the relationship? Why would you want to stay in the relationship?
What exactly do you love about this guy? It sounds like you enjoy the picture taking and posing, but that’s not love. This guy loves looking at pretty girls in varying degrees of undress‑girls that are not you. Girls that he knows or has known intimately. Are you okay with that? That’s probably just the tip of the iceberg.
From my end of things, he sounds like a dirty stinkin’ liar. Wash that man right out of your hair. Get back ALL the pictures of you he took, and then delete them from his hard drive.
Confront him and move on. He won’t change but you can; in fact, you must.
Read Part Three of the April 4-Way.
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