Just Say NO

By: Zana Faulkner (View Profile)

My friend had just purchased her first home. She had a hundred different ideas for her new condo—ranging from new patio doors, to landscaping, to re-tiling the bathroom floor. She had a new paint color chosen for each room, and ideas for new light fixtures. She needed a washer and dryer, a new dishwasher, and a new refrigerator. Oh, she also wanted a new bed and mattress, new linens, a new couch, new barstools, and new drapes.

She set about rectifying all these desires at once. I am not kidding. She called in favors from everyone she knew. She called on old boyfriends to help haul and install appliances. She called a plumber friend to address her plumbing issues; she called a hottie she’d picked up at Home Depot to get a deep discount on a storm door. Then she called me.

I like my friend. She is funny, creative, energetic, and generous. She would do anything to help her friends. She would give you her new storm door if you really needed it. So when she called me and asked if my brother could install her new patio doors, I felt extremely guilty about the voice in my head that was shouting out, “Oh, hell, NO!” I’m sure I sounded fairly cagey in my conversation with her. After all, I didn’t really want to commit my brother’s abilities or his time—but most of all, I just felt like I didn’t want to commit to this arrangement. I didn’t want to be anywhere in the middle, beside, in front of, or behind this arrangement.

I finally agreed to call my brother, and ask him, to call her. That would be the end of it for me—after all, the two of them could work it out. My friend was capable of explaining her needs herself, and my brother was capable of determining his availability and willingness to take on this project by himself.

I was wrong.

The project seemed straightforward to me:
  1. Contractor inspects door opening to determine appropriate size of doors to install.
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posted: 06.05.2007
Midori Nakamura
very funny. true that.
posted: 05.19.2007
Cathy Kemp
this is so true, it reminds me of the time a friend of mine painted my Mom's house for her. big BIG mistake. after she added on 20 more things that didn't even include painting my friend was tired angry and hurt. she never offered more beyond his quote. it was just expected of my friend. NEVER EVER is right!
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