Dealing with Loss While Expecting Your Bundle of Joy

By: Lindsey8484 (View Profile)

My baby’s first Christmas, Thanksgiving, birthday, everything else will also be the first without pops. I am kinda confused on how to feel about all of this, there are a lot of mixed emotions going on right now, I was soooooo happy two weeks ago, everything was so perfect. Now everything is so incomplete without pops. I saw and took care of my father-in-law everyday for eight years and became very close to my husband’s family. Although I don’t know how it feels to lose one of my own parents, I hurt for the loss of my husband and children, along with the loss that I feel after knowing him only those short eight years.

We had the funeral today and that sucked; I haven’t really been that hungry, but I also know that I have to eat for the baby. I try not to get too stressed out but that is hard. I am trying to be a good wife and be there for my husband. I’m trying to be a good mother and help my little one try to understand everything that happens now without her best friend. Also, on the other hand I am six months pregnant. What am I supposed to do? Any suggestions or encouraging words? Do I tell my husband that I would still like to name the baby Jr.? Do I give the baby two middle names? If I do that can I still name the baby Jr.?

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posted: 10.18.2008
Lindsey8484
We have a baby 08-25-08!!!!! He is a jr. with an extra middle name from his father, that is his papa's first name. Yes he does have 5 names. Our family does feel complete now. With an everlasting hole in our heart.
posted: 07.06.2008
Lindsey8484
I just wanted to update this story, As of July 6,2007 I am currently 33wks pregnant, and enjoying every min of it. My husband has had time to greive over the loss of his father and to come to terms that it must have been his time to go home. The comment from Mommy2boyz about my father-in-law already meeting my son was very soothing to my husband(thank-you). It does make sense that God gives one to sooth the hurt from losing one, but it is still really hard. We have decided to give the baby two middle names, his papa's name and his fathers middle name(that was his papa's middle name as well) and I will also name him Jr. My husband said that he would just enjoy being able to say his fathers name. We have the nursery all ready for the baby, I feel like by doing this it was some therapy for my husband. My daughter talks of her papa everyday and misses him very much, I tell her that papa misses her to and that he is watching over her from heaven. She is ok with that I guess for being 4yr
posted: 06.27.2008
Nae Nae
I know that this is a very hard decision for you and I'm sure that you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. You have to remember that you and your husband made that child together and it is a decision for you to make together as well. I believe God gives one to ease the pain of losing of one. I hope that makes sence. I lost my Dad and shortly after I had my son. Now a few weeks ago I lost my grandfather and I recently found out that I am pregnant. Every day I wish that my Dad knew my husband and my children, and they got to know him, but i know he is watching them and he is proud of us.
posted: 06.08.2008
Diantha Smith
What you, your husband, and family have gone through is very unfortunate and you shouldn't have to endure additional stress over something so trivial by comparison. Naming your son needs to be an enjoyable experience, something shared between you and your husband, ONLY you and your husband. Let your family know that their suggestions will be considered, and YOUR son's name will be given with an unsurpassable amount of thought and love by the two people who created him. Good luck, and keep in mind that your father-in-law will not be dishonored by your son's name (whatever you choose it to be) and your family won't love him, you, or you husband any less over his name.
posted: 06.05.2008
Rebecca Gomez
i wonted to name my baby gurl after my husband mom but that name is already takein and then my husband brother had a baby lasted year and had the baby after his brother mom's mom so all the gurl names after the moms are takein so yeah i wish that it was kinda different too so if i had a time to put my baby names as my husband mom name i would
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