Ok, so I just got done talking with my pal Dawn last night about this and then read Rebecca’s article this a.m. regarding Brazilian waxes/pubic hair. While I DID enjoy her humorous story, I at the same time also felt a twinge of “ho no here we go again.” First, the author says how she feels cleaner and more attractive, etc. or something to that effect and then the waxer, says a “Clean girl is a Happy girl.” What?? I am soooo weary of normal pubic hair getting a bad rap. I look around and all I see are shaved, pubic mounds. It’s in magazines, ads to denude are all over TV, kids text about it on shows. And adult actresses on shows? Oh don’t get me started! It seems pubic hair is the enemy in the new millennium.
I love asking people I know and barely know, questions like … “what do you think about pubic hair?” The answers are quite bothersome. They range from “ohh that’s icky/gross/why would you?/It’s not Clean/It would smell/It shows in my bathing suit/guys hate it/I want someone to lick me/it gets in the way/.” On the list goes on and on. I have made this somewhat of my life’s mini-obsession by now. I am constantly trying to figure out just WHEN did natural, normal bush’s start becoming the V-shaped enemy? If a man or woman would not “go down” on you because you have hair? Holy shit! GET RID OF THEM! Now! This will hardly be their only neurosis. Pubic hair is natural. It is there for a reason. It protects your mons from harm as a mini cushion. It keeps the tender skin under it from getting chafed from pants/sex, et al. It emits sex pheromones. And last but not least? Can actually CUT down on the transmission of an STD from an infected partner. Yup! that’s right. If you have open pores and or ingrown hairs and dread of dreads … razor burns? Well, game over. You now, have many tinnnnny lil open sores that ooze a bit and are hitting up against someone else’s crotch and perhaps getting or giving … an STD. You now have no hair, to protect you. Because you were compelled by societal standards to shave/wax it off.
Ad copy and TV and movie stars and so forth are sending the message to young girls that “hair is bad” and ya gotta get it off and NOW. ALL my friends’ teenage daughters are actually shaving landing strips! I ask them why and they look at the floor and tell me “uhh because it makes it clean or boys won’t like me or everyone ELSE is doing it Mel.” For some reason I can’t explain this is all making me nuts. Hair was accepted and the status quo just 2–3 decades ago when I was coming up. No one I knew EVER shaved or complained. Men I had sex with? No complaints and no weird looks when I got naked. Pornos had hairy people in them. But now? The norm has changed. I am not per se so freaked out that is HAS changed? The genesis of my issue with it all is that young girls are basically being TOLD, outright and subliminally … to shave. They have no idea they are upping their STD skin to skin transmission rate. They are over eighteen or what have and are pretty much, infantilizing their look for a man. My husband once told me that girls who shave freaked him out. He said it was like looking at a ten year old girl, naked. Not too cool when ya think of it that way is it? I work in medicine and have seen many a teenage girl pregnant. I think as a society and parentally, that young gals should not be so encouraged to change their bodies to “please men.” OH when women say … “ohhh I did it for myself.” Yeah ok, whatever. Know what “I” am thinking?! Uhh no, you did it FOR a MAN because society thinks hair is dirty. I just smile and nod and think … sucker. But on the upside? Me and my hair are pretty much a “fetish” now! I go to the Nude beach and men (and some gals) actually Comment on my “balls” to wear my thatch as nature intended. Hmmm yeah. I don’t have balls. I have a Pussy, one with hair and one I am proud not to have mowed like every girl who passes me on the street.
Hirsute in Seattle