Some people look good in anything. I remember growing up, my mom, when referring to these types of individuals, would often say, “they could wear a burlap sack and they would look great.” That said, a lot of people don’t. Finding clothes that fit our individual bodies can always be a challenge: the cut isn’t right, the color isn’t right, the garment fits everywhere except at this spot or that, etc.
Unfortunately, this can wreak havoc on our self-esteem and our body image. I know women who absolutely hate to shop, because they are afraid of how awful the clothes will look on them. They don’t want to be subjected to the distasteful experience of undressing in poorly designed dressing rooms (ironically, most do not flatter us) that seem to accentuate each and every “unattractive” part of their body.
Personally, I sometimes shop and find nothing, causing me to leave feeling utterly deflated. Other times, I’ll shop and hit the jackpot, making me feel like a million dollars. Sometimes, when I’m home trying something on, I look in the mirror and think I was crazy for buying the piece of clothing. Yet, there are times I look at myself without any clothes on and wish that I was either part of a nudist colony or had a new wardrobe, because I look and feel way more fabulous naked.
When it comes to clothing and not feeling good about yourself in them, you second guess the reasoning: it doesn’t fit the way you thought it did, or it shrunk, or your weight “shifted.” You naturally question whether this is a result of the mirror, the lighting, the clothes, or God forbid—you. However, when you are naked, you have less things on which to blame how you look. You are, as you are.
So here is my question: Hypothetically, if you owned clothes that fit you perfectly, would you like your body better with or without clothes on? And why?
Originally published on SheerBalance