Karen i guess i can be of little help to u. But in my case it is the other way round. well my guy gives me a very good feeling down there but when it comes to returning the favour i dont please him much as i hate to taste the fluid oozing out there. but i dont deprive him totally of it, i do it first for him there so that he gets turned on n by the time it is for him to climax i stop n this way he enjoys my work as well as i dont get to taste something which i dont want to. but offlate seeing so many videos i sometimes feel even i should try tasting it n gime him more pleasure though i'm yet to try it. i guess since we girls are open wet he doesn't like to taste it or may be has already tasted it n feels its not something he can try again. so try watching such videos together n turn him on n please him n then try asking for the favour.

Does he have a legitimate reason as to why he won't go down? Why don't you try to introduce him to the 69 position. BLEW MY MAN'S MIND!!!!

Karen, I hate to tell you but I believe that you are out of luck, with this particular man. I've been with my b/f for 7+ yrs, he loves it when I pleasure him orally. But he's had 6 back surgeries and claims that's why he doesn't return the pleasure. once in a very blue moon he'll surprise me and just dive down there and make me crawl up the wall. I've learned to totally enjoy those few moments, it's just hard when you really want him too and it's just not happening. I've tried to cut him off from getting any head, thinking that this would change his thoughts there. But like you I enjoy taking care of him, so I'm end up doing it anyway. I do have one idea on how to handle this situtation, but it's not the nicest way. My ex-b/f who I am still in contact with, he gives the best cj's, and if I get desperate, I go visit him! I know it's being the ultimate bad girl with this action, but I just can't help myself at times. Good or bad excuse, doesn't matter.

Consider purchasing a book called "She comes first". He may just lack the education and expericense. He may be totally lost on how to please a woman this way. Consider being open with him on the subject.

I think that you should talk to him about it, and see what he will say. Because most man, they don't go down on females. Just talk to him in see. I'm pretty sure that he would understand, and try to do it. He might like it when he try.

You have more problems than him just not going down on you. If he finds the female anatomy gross, and usually does not climax, and you usually initiate intimacy, there are deeper issues than oral sex here. A female friend of mine had a similar issue with her bf, she discovered that he preferred shemales over actual females. I'm not saying that this is your problem (or his) but rather there are underlying issues here if he's constantly finding excuses.

I THINK U SHOULD BE HONEST WITH HIM AND LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL AND WHAT YOU WANT BECAUSE ITS NOT FAIR FOR HIM TO GET PLEASURE AND YOUR NOT IT SHOULD BE EVEN I SHOULD KNOW BECAUSE I ALWAYS GET WHAT I WANT

I would not go down until he gives back a little of that pleasure to you. Have you asked him why he will not do this?? Does he know that you would enjoy it? Maybe he thinks that you would not be turned on? I would think after 2 years he would know you enough to know what turns you on. You may just have to tell him that it is what you want... I have a problem with a guy who does not give but will defeniately receive.. Is this how the rest of your relatioship is??? Read Cosmo together.. that may give him the heads-up...

I am not into young girls, which is what a shaved vulva looks like to me, and hence I find it a turn-off. I have never favored the shaved pubes look, either for myself or the lady I am with. It just seems like too much work when the natural state can be so lovely! As for the young man who may not have experienced the joys of cunnilingus much, I would say to him that, while the taste may be an acquired one, I for one cannot get enough of my lady's sex! Not only is it only fitting that a man give her the pleasures that she gives him, it can also open up new realms of pleasure for her in general. Once a woman achieves orgasm in this way, she is more likely to experience it during other sexual activities, enjoy sex with him more, and hence want to have sex more often (which is something most men want!). Encourage him by telling him what you enjoy when he 'goes down' on you, telling him how it makes you feel about him, how it shows his love to you, as well as how it makes you feel when he is doing something in particular that you like. Tell him that, while a man is ready to achieve orgasm in moments, a woman needs more time and attention. Persistence is a great virtue in a man who gives a woman head! If she is enjoying a particular movment, whether it is pinches on her nipples, delicate tongue flicks across her clitoris, or nibbles and licks on her labia, he should be patient and continue doing it until she is satisfied, or tells him something like,"no, not there, go back to what you were doing before!" As in all aspects of lovemaking, communication, free from guilt and unedited, is the key to your shared success. He should feel open to accepting criticism as well. Tell him what you like and don't like, so that he can improve with repeated efforts. Best of luck to you both! -- Lorenzo Duke

many of us men do not go down on shaved real estate, for the same reason you gals sometimes ask us to shave - stubble. It burns to be scratched by stubble. Some of us really love total natural hirsute women. The shaving and depilatory thing is one more bit of hyper promotion of snake oil by the huge "beauty" industry, that is totally unhealthy and counter to the fight against STDs. Have you talked to him about the issue(s)? Talking is one other form of communication that enhances any relationship.