I received a text recently that caught my interest. It was from a friend who I met through my travels. He was in a bad place, but I took him to a better place—farther than he imagined.
When a friend calls you in distress, it your responsibility to take the reins. It is not anything but an understanding of one person’s needs above your own, no matter what is going on in your life at the time. My friend, whom I call “the Bread Guy,” is just that. He has a wonderful personality and is extremely intelligent and focused on his career. He has the ability to rise to his own expectations.
The reason I call him the “Bread Guy” is that it is difficult to say his last name as he is not from the United States. I tend to name my people, with an appropriate nickname according to me. I have a cousin who does the same … it must be a genetic thing. Whatever the case, it feels fine and is appropriate for the moment.
My friend had hit rock bottom, where the ocean lies and you can see nothing but the lurky and discriminating waters. At times you’re disoriented, and looking for a positive in the negative. Like trying to hook up your battery in your car—sometimes we don’t remember the connection as we should as there can be a foggy area during the process.
I remembered well how this feels. Like I said, he is intelligent and has goals in his studies for a career that will be demanding. It is the moment I grasp that takes me to a place I duly recognize, and sincerely yet not apologetically explain to him. It is a place in the blue ocean of life, at the bottom where sometimes we cannot see our direction to the top. It is a diver’s nightmare.
As I truthfully give him an example of what could be, what is, and the future he exemplifies, he is a man who knows which path to take. It is those who take guidance on the moment, minute, and second that make all the difference in their own precarious lives. They reach out to others and want to know their own answers to their life process. They need to take accountability for “eyes wide open” as that remains to be their own demise.
I always explain that there is more to your life than the moment. It is what it is … but we all have the power to change it. It is a state of mind that carries us in the wind and then some. It is not luck, fortune or fame. It is living in the moment with yourself. This man, “the Bread Guy” has seen since the glorious moment he can live and survive in no matter what the challenge is. He prepares for his future with the same respect.