Do you ever find yourself trying to be like someone you believe is more acceptable than you? Does your heart cry out for freedom to be accepted for who and what you are? I believe that many, if not most women, feel this way at some point in their lives. But it isn’t a very enjoyable way to live. Women who don’t accept themselves usually have difficulty getting along with others. I had a hard time with relationships until I finally realized through the Word of God that my problems in getting along with others were rooted in my difficulties with myself. I did not like my personality. I constantly compared myself with other women, found fault with myself, I rejected, and even hated myself. I thought I was weird because I was not like everyone else.
God helped me to discover that I’m not weird—I’m unique! And since a unique thing has more value because it’s rare, I also have self-worth! Now I can enjoy the freedom to be myself, and I have discovered that it’s one of the greatest gifts God has given me. What I have experienced and enjoyed will work for you too!
You are a rare, one-of-a-kind, valuable, and precious woman. And I want to help you learn how to be successful at being yourself with some easy-to-follow suggestions:
1. Speak good things about yourself.
Declare what God’s Word says about you. For example, “I am the righteousness of God in Christ. I am made acceptable in the Beloved. God created me and formed me with His own hand, God does’nt make mistakes.” (See in 2 Corinthians 5:21; Ephesians 1:6; Psalm119:73)
2. In the morning when you awake, look into the mirror and say, “This is the day that the Lord has made, and I will rejoice and be glad in Him.”
3. Say the Serenity Prayer: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.
4. Learn to cope with criticism. If you dare to be different, you’ll have to expect some criticism. Going along with the crowd when you know in your heart that God is leading you in a different direction is one of the reasons women don’t succeed at being themselves.
The devil has tormented me with thoughts about my every fault, but I’ve decided not to believe him. For they were all lies anyway, he’s just a liar causing us needless pain and suffering. But God’s Word is there to show us the truth, to renew our minds and to transform us into the women God wants us to be. (See Ephesians 4:23-24). The only thing that stands between you and victory is YOU.