Relationships are a give and take dynamic, counterbalancing time and energy expended by both partners. The common preconceived ideology is that relationships are supposed to be 50/50, but truth of the matter is that a majority of relationships are rarely 50/50.
In today’s relationship genome, there are constant shifts in the makeup of who contributes what; whereby women contribute significantly to the household income, men have adapted to domestic responsibilities, and countless others. These evolutionary adaptations over the years have changed the balancing act in who wears the pants in the relationship, causing stressors to the dynamic because history has taught us that men should be the providers and women tend to the home.
Just as important then, if not more so today, is to recognize the value each person brings to the relationship; so that no one person is feeling neglected for the role they fulfill.
If for instance, the woman is the financial provider working a full-time job and the man is the one tending to the household to make sure things run smoothly without a hitch, each person must take into consideration one another’s time commitment and the allowance their role plays to giving way for the other to tend to their position.
Constantly in relationships are shifts in the feeling of weight one carries; shifting from 50/50 to 60/40, or even 70/30. These imbalances arise because people are in constant influx to various outside variables that cause stress and in turn take a toll on the relationship.
When one person in the relationship feels burned out, or neglected for their contributions, it is vital for the one feeling neglect to be reassured and acknowledged for their contributions and efforts, so that they do not lose sight of love.
What Would Simeon Do?
As a single dad juggling a full time fashion brand and holding down fort domestically, it can be quite overwhelming; frustrating at times when bringing a woman into the equation that does not understand the threshold I wade through to maintaining equilibrium in my life.
I understand the nuances that a relationship undergoes when one person feels overlooked for their contributions; I have been there.
It can be lonely and exhausting to the relationship if one person is constantly running around doing cart wheels to maintain either the financial stability, or tending to the home, yet alone both; but even more so, and frustrating, when one person carelessly takes for granted the value their partner adds to their life.
Recognize the contributions your partner brings, those are the values that solidify the relationship. Constantly reward them or show gratitude, even in the most minute way; those little things all add up and leave a lasting impression.