Being Successfully Single During the Holidays

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Cuddling in front the fireplace. New Year’s Eve kisses. Mistletoe. Looking around it can feel like a conspiracy that everyone has someone during the holidays except you. Considering that this was a time of year that we counted down to as kids, it can be pretty tough when you are single. Whether it is your annoying uncle asking, “Where is your boyfriend?” at the family get-together or maybe a change of traditions from last year when you were in a relationship, the holidays can make you feel more lonely than ever. Throw in the cold weather and snow and you might as well hunker down with a cup of eggnog, your blanket, and the A Christmas Story marathon on TBS.

What if this year you sat back and looked at the holidays a little differently. What if you realized that this is a season not only of joy and good cheer but also with tons of events to meet people and they are usually in a good mood! It is the time of year to spread love, not hide it under the blanket you are wrapped in on the couch. So lose the Bah Humbug and follow these tips for a fun and festive holiday dating season.

1. Get some holiday life support.
Grab your cup of eggnog, blanket, and use that down time for good! Write a list of other single friends and acquaintances that are in the same boat as you.  Choose people who are friendly, positive, and open to meeting new people. Invite them over and get them on board. Agree to encourage and make each other accountable for getting off your couch and getting out there. You support team can also help you buy that coworker you have been crushing on a small holiday gift or be your wing person as you talk to that barista that makes you laugh every time you order your caramel macchiato.

2. Say yes!
Now that you have your support team in place, embrace all of the great parties and other events during the holiday season. Say yes to all of them. Go to each other’s work parties and family get-togethers. You never know who even your lame cousin is going to have at their holiday function and can always use the excuse that you have another holiday party to jet off too. Have each member of the team pick out one or two other community events that they have always wanted to check out and commit to it. This is also a fantastic time to have a great singles holiday party yourself. It is hard to feel lonely when you are ridiculously busy!

3. Spread holiday cheer.
’Tis the season to be jolly, so take some of your holiday cheer and spread it by volunteering. Even if you don’t have much money, you can still donate your time. Check out the United Way Holiday Wish Book for great opportunities or check in with your local schools, hospital, church, or youth center. There are so many places that could use your help during the holidays and what a great way to meet new people!

4. Give a special gift to your favorite person: yourself.
Now that you don’t have to spend lots of time and money searching for that “perfect gift” for your significant other, use it get yourself a little something special. Whether it is that new iPod or a relaxing spa day, allow yourself to realize some of the great parts about being single. Better yet, this is a perfect time to get away from the cold and go on vacation. There is a plethora of amazing singles travel groups that do tours around the world from cruises to African safaris. What better gift to yourself than experiencing new places and cultures with other singles from around the world. 

5. Reconnect with old friends.
This is the perfect time of the year to catch up with people that you haven’t heard from in awhile. Nobody is going to think twice about receiving a holiday card, email or phone call from you. This is a great time to announce you are single and open to meeting new people to your friends as well as exes, old crushes and that one person you have always had a flirtation with but were never available. You also never know who else became single recently and might be interested in a reunion. 

With your holiday support team, tons of party possibilities and a vacation to an exciting destination, the holidays may now become your favorite time of the year. If nothing else, you always have A Christmas Story.


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