Dear Dr. Romance:
I want to thank you for the article you wrote “Older Women Dating Younger Men.” I’ve been dating a guy that is six years younger than me (he’s twenty and I’m twenty-six) for about ten months now and I’ve felt so guilty that I’m “robbing the crib” or a “cougar”… I haven’t told anyone I’m in this relationship out of fear of their reaction due to the age difference.
Reading the article I felt a bit better about it because I know we are together for the right reasons and not as a fling. I really like how you expressed in your article that one should stop concentrating on the age, and rather look at the relationship. Hopefully I can start to do more of that in my relationship.
I’m glad you found the article helpful. I don’t think a six-year difference is significant. What’s important is that you form a partnership, with mutual respect and caring. To make your relationship successful please read Couples Can Cooperate for Success; Creating Unconditional Love; and Guidelines for Being Understood by Your Partner. You might also find my book, How to Be a Couple and Still Be Free, will help you to create the relationship you want. I wish you good fortune in your relationship.