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Did you know the single most important thing you can do to become a great lover is double your own pleasure?
By focusing on you—learning what feels good where, when, and for how long—you discover the secrets of your own body. You can then better reveal them to your lover. You become an artist of your own sexuality—savage, inventive, and magnetically wild.
Since time began, women have honed their lovemaking skills by practicing the art of self-pleasure. Primitive cave drawings show females touching their own bodies sensually. The great Cleopatra used carved clay dildos to excite herself and her many lovers. And in the ancient Far East, women created tortoiseshell replicas of their lover’s equipment (inscribed with his name) to serve as “companions” during prolonged absences. When reunited, the women amazed their lovers with a repertoire of arousing new tricks.
These women understood that self-pleasure frees your body and fires your imagination for hotter, more adventurous lovemaking. In fact, erotic self-exploration can:
• flood your body with endorphins—for a happiness “high”
• teach you how to have deeper, more frequent orgasms
• reduce stress
• relieve menstrual cramps and vaginal dryness
• add freshness and spice to your lovemaking—while also deepening intimacy
So don’t keep all the fun to yourself. Here are ten ways to light your own fire while, at the same time, turning your lover’s flame up to extra hot. A delicious double whammy of love.
1. Double Damp: Wet your finger in his mouth and circle it around your nipples, making them glisten with excitement. Trail the damp finger over your belly and, with a wicked gleam in your eye, dip it into your vulva. Then touch the finger, now redolent with your scent, to his lips, and nipples.
2. Double Sassy: Ask him to lick your fingers while you massage your nether regions.
3. Double Deli: Pour oil or wine over your breasts, letting the liquid spill slowly over your curves. Rub it in. Then glide your slick, hardened nipples all over your lover’s face, chest, thighs, and genitals.
4. In the Double Driver’s Seat: One of the best self-pleasuring toys in the world is your man’s penis. It’s warm, flexible, and responsive as a Lamborghini. Oil it up, grab the gear shift, and take it for a spin. Tickle your nipples, tease your inner sex lips, trace circles around your clitoris, and, keeping it under firm control, massage the inner walls of your vagina.
5. Double Tickler: Make his shaft an even more exciting toy by adorning it with a tickler—a latex ring fitted with beads or soft prongs, that encircles the base of his erection. The snug fit makes him swell and become ultra sensitive, while the beads give you bonus stimulation with every thrust. Buy a tickler at any online sex toy store. Or make your own by putting several knots in a nylon stocking. Wrap but don’t tie it around him, or you may not be able to release him afterwards!
6. The Bottoms-Up Double: When he’s on top, cup your fanny and lift it high enough so you can knead it with your fingers. This provides deeper penetration—fun for both of you—and stimulates your sensitive derriere. You can push your fanny cheeks together, which tightens your inner muscles around him. Or stretch them farther apart, exposing more of your labial skin to his thrusts.
7. Double Dog: While in the doggie position, open your first two fingers and place the crotch of this V over your pubic mound, letting the sides of your fingers graze against his thrusting organ. The fingers transfer vibration to your clitoris and back to the often-neglected lower part of his shaft.
8. Double Slick: Massage his erection just enough to produce pre-ejaculate fluids. Collect the few slippery drops with your fingertip and—as he watches—rub them on your nipples, perhaps your lips, and finally your own genitals. You feel silky, sexy, and wet. He feels crazed with heat and lust.
9. Double Talk: When you have pleasured yourself to near-orgasm, call your man at work. Tell him exactly what you’re doing, punctuating every phrase with moans and ragged breaths. As you approach your peak, move the phone lower so he can hear the slurpy sounds you’re making. He may come home immediately.
10. Double Good Vibes: During doggie sex, press a vibrator to your thighs or pubic mound. Along with the thrusting, you feel extra pulsation where it counts—and he feels it too, right through the walls of your throbbing flesh.