Fighting is pretty easy to do in relationships. You feel comfortable and are together a lot, so your feelings just sort of flow … freely. When you think about it, it’s actually kind of convenient to have someone there to accuse, convict, and punish—even if they’re innocent. I mean come on, make-up sex can’t even justify these fights, they’re just dumb. Below are three.
1. Where do you want to eat?
This one typically happens when your relationship is just developing. You want to please the other person. He wants Italian. So do you! Who cares you have Celiac Disease and must be on a gluten free diet. Wine is gluten free.
Tip: Speak up. No one wants to date an echo. Plus, this is a great conversation piece. It’ll get you talking about all sorts of things, like what foods you’ve never tried, what countries you’ve been to, and what you had for lunch.
2. You wish I was more like your ex, don’t you?
So you’ve tracked down the ex—just to see what they look like. Or maybe, you’re one of the mature ones and accidentally met this person. Anyway, you can’t stop seeing their face everywhere, in your cereal, on the light rail, at work. And now you’re convinced you should see it in the mirror. Because that’s what your SO (significant other) wants, of course.
Tip: First of all, don’t go ex-hunting. No good can come from that. Secondly, realize that your SO is with you now. There’s a reason someone is an ex.
3. No, I’ll do it!
Stubbornness and control sum it up. Not letting your SO do something for you, insisting on doing something just because, or needing to be right. I got into a fight with an ex over who was going to pack the potato chips for our picnic—we both wanted to. That doesn’t sound right, does it? It’s like someone wanting to do laundry or scrub the bathtub. I hate packing my lunch for work. I haven’t sunk to Lunchables yet, but you never know. One of my friends and her SO fought over how to pronounce someone’s name. Honestly.
Tip: Give in once in awhile. Consider the reasons why you’re standing your ground—are they justified?