I have survived an abusive marriage and now, an abusive relationship. I have been reading letters from people in hardship. Let’s first start with the choices we make. There are good ones and bad ones, but for some odd reason we seem to keep in mind the bad things people do to us, the things people haven’t done for us, and the things people won’t let go. Let’s start with number one, ourselves. I am a survivor and I will keep on surviving until I am called home. In the meantime, I haven’t been promised the moon or the stars but guess what, I still see them.
We all want to be loved and want someone to love. My favorite saying is, “If I don’t have it for myself then how on God’s green earth can I give it to someone else?” Raise the bar, what is it you want in a relationship? I love it when someone can help with good advice, but when will I value what I mean to myself more then what someone else says I mean to them? If I care, love, and respect myself then why can’t I get my partner to feel the same? Well you have to ask him or her, “Do you love yourself?” Now the first response will be “of course I love myself.” So then ask him or her why is it hard for him/her to give into the part of him/herself that has accepted me? I should complete the equation. My story is that we can help ourselves with the right thoughts, needs, and the love we fail to have for ourselves to share with others. Does this make sense?
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