Getting down and dirty with your partner can feel exhilarating, naughty, and a little nerve-wracking all at the same time.
And sometimes we ladies can get a little shy when it comes to letting our other half know exactly what we want between the sheets. Especially when it's a little kinky or involves some new toys.
It happens to the best of us, and while it may take some courage to actually put it out there to your partner, there are some pretty common kinks that may be a little easier for some of us to start with, and will still result in one heck of a toe-curling bedroom session.
Masturbation
Come on, fess up! Most of us do it, but for some reason we just can't admit it.
Yet masturbation is one of the most sexually healthy things a person can do for themselves, and it actually helps to increase our own sexual awareness. So why do it alone? Instead, invite your partner to join in on the solo loving!
Not only will they not be able to keep their eyes off of you, but it also helps to get their primal urges pumping, cast a little fire in their eyes, and if you ask them to join in, they may just explode.
After all, the voyeurism element in masturbation is what makes this simple kink so sexy and is sure to get both of you going.
And in case that wasn't enough, another benefit in watching your partner pleasure themselves is that you might learn a little technique that they love, how hard they like it, or where specifically on their bodies they like it.
So next time you want to mix things up with your partner, suggest watching each other and see where the night leads you!
Take A Trip To The (Adult) Toy Store
First off, if you are still quite new to telling your partner what you want in bed, this kink may take some time to get comfortable with.
Most women I know swear by sex toys, and while it took them a while to get up the courage to approach the subject with their partner, once they did their sex life went to a whole new level.
If you are considering incorporating sex toys in your sack sessions, it may be best to start off with something small and less intimidating. And trust me, I don't mean 'that' type of small.
What I mean is that when you're first experimenting with sex toys, it is best to start off with accessories such as flavoured, edible, or warming lubricants.
Lubricants are a great way to introduce sex toys into your intimate relationship because they help women to enjoy foreplay and sex much more as they help to keep things, well, slippery so your bodies can slide together, up and down, without having to worry about the pain that comes from too much friction and not enough lubrication.
Once you feel comfortable with that step, start incorporating a vibrator. Most men love to watch their women experience pleasure. In fact, it usually makes them want us more.
And if you want to turn the tables on him and get him in on the action, try using the vibrator on his testicles. He may be nervous at first but if you can get him to relax, you can give him a sensation that will have him wanting to ravage you.
No matter which toys you decide to use, or how you decide to use them, you are sure to add some serious sexual sparks to your next sex session.
After all, a healthy sex life is about experiencing new things, pushing your boundaries while still feeling comfortable, and taking your intimacy to the next level.
And if you aren't comfortable with the way things are heading, tell your man. Maybe you will just need to take things a bit slower, but don't be discouraged. These things take time.
Finally, while I'm sure this goes without saying it should be mentioned that you always need to make sure you are safe, comfortable, and protected with your partner. With STDs such as chalmydia, genital warts, crabs, BV, and gonorrhea now a common concern in all our sex lives, the onus is on us to stay smart and use protection.
Once you are confident with your means of protection you can feel free to enjoy endless hours of body-twitching, headboard-knocking, and unbridled passion with your man. Have I convinced you yet?
