MY BEST FRIEND
By Kim Byron
I have been to many weddings in which the bride has made reference to how happy she is as she is marrying her “best friend”. I use to think that was a nice and beautiful sentiment but I personally didn't understand what that feeling was. Sure I had other females that were my best friends but oddly enough never did I feel that way about any man I had ever dated. That included my ex-husband.
Over time I tried to really feel those best friend feelings toward various boyfriends. I tried to imagine what that would feel like, how it was suppose to feel. Obviously I failed as it never happened. Try as I might those feelings just never came. I began to wonder if I would ever feel that towards any boyfriend. I also figured out that I can't force those feelings, that if they were going to ever come then I needed to relax and if it was meant to be then it would happen.
Approximately eight years ago I meant a special man and we had such an intense relationship on many different levels. Levels that I didn't even know existed. He was fast turning into my everything and then one day it literally hit me like a ton of bricks. This was my best friend!! That undescribible feeling that I was looking for was finally here! We were joking around with each other and I literally stopped what I was doing and looked at him and told him that I felt like he was my best friend. He laughed and said “of course”.
I was literally dumbfounded. His “of course” was my big epiphany that I had never felt with a boyfriend before! I felt on top of the world with my new found knowledge! It was just another way in which we connected. It brought a smile to my face. Over time he asked me to marry him and of course I said yes! It was not meant to be as almost five years ago he passed away at a young age. I was heartbroken and didn't date anyone for two years after that.
That loss took my breath away, literally. Over time and dealing with his death I began to think about dating again. I did a lot of praying and knew that he would have wanted me to go on and to be happy. My problem was that every man I dated I compared to him. I didn't mean to do it and consciously tried not to. I was successful and one day met an amazing man that has become my current boyfriend.
In a lot of ways he reminded me of my former fiance yet he is his own unique, special person. He has more respect for me than any man I have ever met. He tells me every day how special and amazing I am. I am convinced that if more men communicated as effectively as he does the world would be a happier place. We truly feel blessed to have found each other. I am hoping over time he will become my everything. What I do know for a fact is that I do think of him as my best friend and so much more. To me it is a gift to have found this feeling with another man and I am very thankful.
MY BEST FRIEND