We’re revealing the biggest reasons why a guy will just disappear after a few dates—with no explanation.
1. We’re Emotional Midgets
Plain and simple. Many men lack the emotional maturity and vocabulary to sit with another adult and say, “This doesn’t work for me, so I’m going to go.” It can hurt to have a man disappear on you, but a relationship with an emotional midget is never going to work for long anyway. Good riddance.
2. You seem slightly unhinged.
If after a few evenings together you appear nice, but slightly unhinged, a man may come to conclusion, “It’s best to just slip away, rather than risk an unpleasant conversation.” We’ve all seen Fatal Attraction and have a fundamental fear of the bunny boiler.
3. We’ve been leading you on.
It happens. He knows that you won’t move forward without a sense of real love and long-term interest, so things get said, promises get made, and expectations ratchet up. He never meant any of it, and when it’s time for him to explain all that, it makes him feel like a con man. So . . . poof!
4. Two dates isn’t a relationship.
Two pleasant evenings on the town may not entitle you to an explanation of his future romantic aspirations. You’re not having a relationship yet. You’re spending a couple hours together talking and perhaps kissing. Don’t feel slighted if a man you barely know doesn’t call and explain himself.
5. We don’t want to destroy you with a personality critique.
There is a school of thought that says, “If a man goes poof, WHO CARES WHY?” You’ve already learned the only important fact—he doesn’t want to be with you. Do you really want a hard look at the reasons? Are you itching for a personality critique? What if he says, “You have bad skin. You talk about yourself too much, and you are a terrible kisser.” Maybe he disappeared because he doesn’t want to end up crushing your self-esteem in an awkward conversation.
6. The reason is too embarrassing and we’re bad liars.
Sometimes men pass on a great woman because they’ve met 1) a more convenient woman, 2) a more sexually available woman, 3) a better-looking woman, 4) a woman their friends like more. Explaining to you that you’re great, but we’d like to be with a better-endowed woman is, frankly, a little embarrassing. This puts us in the position of having to lie when you ask, “Why are you leaving?!” Some men are good liars and some are not.
Get more reasons men go poof from eHarmony Advice. And guess what? The women are doing it too! Read why women go poof!
