Growing up as a girl, you read fairytale stories such as Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, and Snow White and immediately you start to envision what your romantic prince is going to be like. Only to wake up years and years later and realize that you were duped! There is no such thing as a fairytale romance, at least for me.
I have dated so many guys that I thought “could of, should of,” been my prince charming, only to find out that once they are frogs, no matter how many times you kiss them, they will forever be frogs! Period.
I mean, what’s a girl to do these days?
You look and look in every possible place: bars, clubs, malls, sporting events, and you can’t find a decent good man. People set you up left and right, and all you get is “someone who is described as “someone nice.” (It doesn’t matter that he has no job, no life goals, or that he rather be home watching the football game, he’s nice and that’s all that matters, right?) You even then get the guts to go online and plug yourself into those dating sites, only to be disappointed, embarrassed, and used.
My best friend even tried those “free” dating sites, and after I think man number four realized that again, men are either looking for the next Cindy Crawford, or they just want to get laid.
Then you decide to use social networking as a means of finding “Mr. Right” and that backfires as well.
There is one thing about relationships that I have learned, especially now that I am in my thirties …
Men are superficial and try to “land’ the model-type girl all the time. When they meet good, decent people who make them laugh, are intelligent, and just down to Earth good people, they always find something about them that is wrong and reject them.
As for women, we tend to get a little “too picky” at times. We want the man to make a good living, love what we love, and oh yeah, he has to not only have a good personality but he also need to be attractive.
Are we becoming too romantically challenged these days or are we just deciding not to settle any more?
I guess time will tell, won’t it? I still will be searching for my prince charming, hoping that I one day get to ride into the sunset like I was promised way back when. That’s the beauty of love, no matter how many times your heart is broken, you will always open it until it gets to seal the deal.
This truth has made me question everything and has happened and everything that will happen in my life even more than ever before.
Why can’t we stop expecting things to look or happen a certain way then the actual way things turn out? Why do we set ourselves up for failure if the first impressions we receive don’t turn out as planned? Why does everyone try to plan the outcome of everything only then to be disappointed?
Ever notice how hard you try to have someone like you or you push the envelope to get that big job, only to be disappointed when you find out in the end that the person you “thought” you knew is really a jerk and the job you “would die for” isn’t what it is cracked up to be?
Maybe instead of trying to make an outcome be a certain way we could actually have it all. Could the key to having it all lie with this simple idea: Maybe life and relationships would be a lot easier if we just sat back, relaxed, and let it come to us instead of us always going toward “it.” I mean, yes, if you want something so badly there is nothing wrong with putting the steps in motion for it to happen, but I think we kind of forget that life doesn’t always turn out the way you plan, so while you are planning one thing, you need to be ready for whatever life may throw at you.
I’m not so sure about all of this, but I am sure about two things: 1) Every thing that happens does in fact happen for a reason, even if we don’t know what that reason is at the time. 2) The truth is certainly a powerful force beyond any other force in the universe. The inner truth is the only way live life and not on the opinions others may have. Cause in the end you need to live life for yourself and not for others. Even Cinderella could appreciate that!
