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Sacred Prostitution and Satisfying Basic Sexual Need

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I suppose most of us adults (if we have left the Parent’s Guide off) have received sexual invitations by email.


Some years ago, I received a very clear invitation by Janet (I don’t know if this was her real name) to visit her Web page to study pictures of herself. As I had the feeling that she was new to this business I answered her email, which was written in quite an innocent-like manner—or was it just a ruse to get me to pay to look at it?


Nonetheless, the whole matter of “Sex for Security” intrigued me enough to write the article below. In part it was my answer to her.


My Article
First, let us investigate the so-called most ancient woman’s profession, prostitution. There was—and still is—a need for this honorable profession. Therefore, we investigate the socio-econometric situation (meaning under what condition they had to live) of our hunting and gathering ancestors.


As nomads, we wandered from place to place following the game, the moving herds of vegetarian animals. All able-bodied men and boys went hunting for meat. Meanwhile, the women took care of the children and the men who were unable to go on the hunting parties. They stayed in the vicinity of the camp, gathering the food found in the fields and woods and hunting for smaller animals.


After a few or many days, the women expected the men to come home with the meat. The men expected to be acknowledged for their hardships, being away from the comforts of the camp and usually risking their lives. And the best form of acknowledgment was—and still is—sexual pleasures.


Every adult man (who had killed a prey with his own weapon) and every adult woman (who had menstruated) could have sex with any adult partner. Of course, the women were interested in the men who brought home the best meat regularly. They wanted to be sure to get the best food for their babies and themselves.


Although all the meat and gathered fruits were shared with every tribal member, the best parts were reserved for the specific hunter. He then decided with whom he cared to share it with and, of course, he shared it with the woman who acknowledged him the best.


We have understood that we need to learn certain skills so that sex can become pleasurable. When it has become an interdependence between two partners, sex becomes bliss. This takes time, so definitive partnerships were established; the theme of Safety and Sexual Satisfaction.


Let us admit it. Some men have learning inhibitions and some women will tolerate anything as long as they can feel safe for their babies and themselves. In those days, however, everybody knew (also in the biblical sense) everybody else in the tribe. Thus, the young men had to be taught.


Women who had passed their childbearing age had also lost the elasticity of their bodies. However, they had accumulated a treasure horde of experience and skill. And some women were more interested in the variety of such teachings than the security of one significant other.


Also, they enjoyed eating young tenders loins (pun intended) and these young hunters became skillful hunters—and lovers—very quickly. Thus “prostitution”was very beneficial for all members of the tribe.


After six to ten million years, we come to the so-called civilization, established some six to ten thousand years ago. Marriages and organized rural and polytheistic religions had also become established. From a more matriarchal, we became more a patriarchal society.


Women learnt they “had to” serve men, in marriage, in labor, and in the temples. Obviously, the driving force of men’s sexual energies, their uses and misuses, came into play. Organized religious institutions and scrupulous rulers found means of how to bind the men—and the women—into loyal servitude.


Men successful in their servitude, farmers who made bigger donations to the temple, vanquishing warriors, were rewarded. For a certain amount of time, hours, days, weeks, they were given a “visitation” with one of the temple’s Sacred Prostitutes.


What we need to understand here is that a “visitation,” an official visit so to say, was an acknowledgment from the Temple or the King. Definitively, a Sacred Prostitute was well trained in how to give sexual satisfaction. However, she had to accept the intended and unintended (by an unskilled man) misuse of her person.


Matrimony, then and today, is like riding a raft down the rapids. So where did a man go when he had problems, the nature of which nowadays requires counseling by a psychologist? He went to the Sacred Prostitute. There she was able to establish a personal relationship, where acknowledgment for a personal gift from her patron, was acceptable (and required).


Thus a Sacred Prostitute fulfilled a psycho-hygienic requirement of the community. One of her tasks was to assure the continuity of her patron’s marriage, mostly by teaching him skills of how to act in (and out) of bed. The older, thus more experienced, she got to be, the more appreciated and the more honored she became by both the men and the women.


The matter of prostitution in the Judeo-Christian area is full of controversies, best left for another essay.


To understand satisfying basic sexual needs, we need to accept that the effect of civilization on the development of our main sexual organ, our brain, is minimal. Thus our basic needs, buried in the so-called “reptilian” part of our brain, are still the same as they were six million years ago.


Basically, women need safety and security, men need acknowledgment, both need sexual satisfaction.


So what is the six million-year-old secret knowledge (now possibly quite obvious) that the women knew and used to assure safety for their babies and themselves?


We have all heard of the “mother’s instinct”! And it is acceptable that a mother may even kill to keep her baby alive. We never doubt that a woman with a baby has this instinct.


However, have we ever heard of the “provider instinct” of a man? And that a man, under certain circumstances, will even let himself be killed to provide for the woman and their children—if this woman understood, however, how to stimulate the “provider instinct” in her man.


It seems to me, in our culture we doubt the “provider instinct” in men. Oh, we do accept that it exists. But not in “my” man! So how does a woman—honestly, a man cannot do this for himself—stimulate the Provider in her man?


Acknowledgement is the key. Of course, ladies, if you have read this far, you will know that. Yet there is acknowledgment and there is Acknowledgment. The former is when it is habitual and is of little value only. The latter is when it is innovative, when it is something special and new. Then it carries the Stimulus for the Provider.


Of course, great sex, showing him Your satisfaction and nurturing him to His satisfaction is The Acknowledgment. Ladies, please, be honest. Your man may be ignorant that you are acting out an orgasm. However, if you do, the according subtle energy will be missing.


And here is a secret that my great grandmother shared with me. If you can look at your man with the same look on your face as you look at your baby, this look of unconditional love, then you have stimulated The Provider. You need to be able to look at him like that whenever you remember to do so, and especially when having sex with him.


So you better leave the lights on!

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