Affairs are becoming increasingly more public events, though I doubt they are more common than they used to be. We just hear more about them in a much more public way than we have in the past. If you are a Single woman, you may be worried about being cheated on by the man you choose. You may be wondering how you can affair-proof your relationship before you even find the one for you.
You may ask yourself, “How do I choose a man of good character to spend my life with? This is an excellent question to start with. I always ask this question of my new clients: “Do you have a written list of your requirements for a successful relationship?” Too often they respond with an enthusiastic “Yes!” then proceed to give me their laundry list of the perfect man.
That is not what I asked. If you are only focused on the qualities you want in a man, you’re missing the point. It is critical that you focus on what you must see happen in a relationship, that is, your Relationship Requirements, so that you can make the best choice when deciding on a mate.
If you have a list of characteristics that you want in a man, go through it with a magnifying glass. If you were to turn it around, would you be that person? Be honest with yourself.
- If you are looking for a man who is in shape, what kind of shape are you in? Or are you looking for a relationship in which health and fitness are important values
- If you are looking for a spiritual man, what are your spiritual values? Or are you seeking a relationship in which spirituality is an important part of everyday life?
- If you are looking for a man who is honest, what does that mean? Are you looking for brutal honesty or a softer version of honesty? Are you brutally honest yourself? What level of honesty do you want in your relationship?
- If you are looking for a man who is financially responsible yet you spend like there is no tomorrow, how is that going to work? If you want financial responsibility to be part of your relationship, what do you do that makes you financially responsible?
As you can see, the values you hold are the values you want in your relationship. If you only look at the characteristics of your ideal man, you are not looking at the whole picture. Take time to assess your values so that you are able to create your ideal relationship. Working with a Relationship Coach can help you gain a crystal clear vision of your Relationship Requirements.
I invite you to sign up for my free report, “Why am I Still Single and What Can I Do About it? Ten Attitudes that are Keeping You From Finding Your Dream Man” at http://trueloverelationshipcoach.com/singlewomenreport.html.