Sexual desire fluctuates over the years. It is at its peak when you are into a new relationship and is determined by brain chemistry. As the excitement wears off, sexual desire fades. Every relationship experiences disagreements and pain. Sex won’t be boring if you talk things over with your partner.
The sexual desires of any normal woman tend to fluctuate naturally over the years. For women, while the initial phase of a relationship is like a sexual rollercoaster, the final phase coincides with a lot of sexual highs and lows, as well as with major changes such as illness, menopause, or pregnancy. Low libido in some women is linked to hypoactive sexual desire, also known as low sex drive. This condition is characterized by recurrent or persistent absence of sexual desire that causes personal distress to both partners. Therefore, it is imperative that you seek medical help if you think you have this condition. However, most women find that making certain lifestyle changes and adopting certain sex techniques help improve their sex life significantly. Read on to understand why you have low sexual desire and how you can address this condition.
The initial phase of a relationship and sexual desire
The initial phase of a relationship signifies a new beginning for both partners. Sexual desire is at its peak when you are into a new relationship, and it’s tough to keep your hands off your partner. You end up making love in any place that offers even minimum privacy, and you just can’t seem to get enough. Things gradually cool down and you are content to keep things inside the bedroom. And eventually your partner considers himself lucky if you make love once a week. However, this is a common phenomenon and you are not alone in this. Almost every woman has had this experience once in a while. Why does this happen? Can you overcome the problems to put the sizzle back in your relationship?
Prob 1: It was “the spark” that lit your fire
Sexual attraction is primarily determined by brain chemistry. You are likely to experience sexual attraction and compulsive thoughts about your partner because of the release of high levels of serotonin, dopamine, and adrenaline in the brain. These chemicals are responsible for the feelings of excitement and euphoria that you feel when you are into a new relationship. As the excitement wears off and you get used to having your partner around, the spark that ignites your sexual desire begins to fade. Nothing can bring back the initial magic of a relationship but you can incorporate small changes into your sexual routine to make it seem like new.
Prob 2: The daily ups and downs can wear away your desire
Every relationship has its share of disappointments, disagreements, annoyance, and pain. After a sharp argument, you may not exactly be in the mood for passion and reject your partner sexually. The problem is that many men connect with their partners through sex and feel emotionally disconnected if they are denied this basic need. This can be a self-perpetuating downward spiral that can ruin your relationship forever. Therefore, it is essential to break this vicious cycle in time; you can do this by communicating with your partner on ways and means to express your affection for each other.
Prob 3: And this is the big one … you’re having sex for him
When your romance is fresh, you may do many things you didn’t want to out of a desire to please him. However, as time goes by, you see that he isn’t as perfect as you thought him to be, and you no longer feel the need to make him happy. But you should have sex to make both you and your partner happy. Have sex because it feels good, gives you terrific orgasms, uplifts your spirit, and most of all keeps you healthy.
Sex need never become boring or predictable if you talk things over with your partner and connect with him on an emotional, mental, and spiritual level. If you decide to resolve your differences amicably each time you have an argument, it will make all the difference to your sex life.