We’re not going to lie. A man boasting abs chiseled to perfection and biceps that pop just enough when flexed (without shredding shirts He-Man style) will no doubt turn our heads. And even if caught mid check-him-out glance, we’re not about to look away. Fit, toned bodies are the result of hard work and dedication to a healthy lifestyle. We certainly pay homage to that. But for a man to achieve a skyrocketing score on the sexiness scale, there’s got to be more to him than physical assets. Throw in these seven traits and he’s guaranteed to be irresistible.
1. He Radiates Calm
It’s sending shivers up our spine just thinking about how powerful a man’s calm presence can be. Neurotic, hyper, or frenzied is stressful, no matter how busy he is or whatever excuse he has. But if he’s got cool written all over his face, and his gaze is pure steady and peaceful, his sex appeal will shoot through the roof (think old-school James Dean). We women can unwillingly fall into the trap of over-worrying about things we can’t control. A man who sets us at ease by reminding us how things always manage to work out in the end is absolutely hot.
2. He Takes Care of Himself
Look, we’re not saying it’s a certain height or build that matters. If he keeps his body in relatively good shape, this shows us he knows how to take care of himself. It also clues us in that he makes health a priority. What’s more, if he’s active, working out even a few times a week, the endorphins his body is producing during gym sessions are sure to keep him in good spirits and energized. The bottom line: if he takes good care of himself, he’s likely to take good care of his partner (or at least help keep her motivated to do so). That’s a turn-on.
3. He’s Got Style
We don’t want to give the wrong idea here. This is not to say he has to have one certain type of style, and that mimicking a prescribed “it” style is a surefire path to sexy (whether that’s clean-cut, tattooed-up, or punked-out). Not at all. Rather, what’s attractive in a guy is that he has a style at all, a way of dressing that reflects in some way who he is and what he’s into. A guy who wakes up hum-drum and throws the same dingy shirt and pair of jeans on every day? Not sexy. At all.
4. He Has a Manly Scent
Sounds so animalistic, we know. No man can control his natural scent, and it turns out our DNA compatibility dictates who smells good to us, anyway. But every guy can augment his essence with a spritz (one will do just fine) of cologne. As long as it’s not overdone, a man with a strong scent has the potential to drive women wild.
5. He Has Mastered the Wink
We don’t know how they learn the technique, but some guys really have the Richard Gere wink down pat. There’s an art to this wink and getting it right can be tricky. It’s more suave and smoky than cheeky and laughable. He’s comfortable giving this signal and has the timing to the tee. Done right, this move is pure sexy. Caveat: the wink can be tricky to pull off. Practice first.
6. He Is Affectionate
Though we women try not to let on, affection (be it an arm around the shoulder or hand on the leg) lights us up like fireflies. Consider it your secret weapon. By affection, we do mean to include expressing your feelings through words, such as “I love you.” It’s amazing how many hot men fall short of sexy just for lack of articulating and showing their love. Let’s put it this way: there are guys who reach out to their partner while driving, and there are guys who keep both hands on the wheel and eyes straight ahead. The lads in the former group qualify for sexy.
7. He Laughs Loud, Hard, Often
No news flash here. Comedy is highly enticing. It’s worth noting though that there are different types of humor. The insecure comedy that’s based on putting others down or calling others names doesn’t gibe with us. But give us fun-loving, belly-jiggling jokes and laughter and you’ll head straight to the top of the sexiness charts.
Readers, what are we missing?
By Julie D. Andrews for YourTango
Updated on August 27, 2010