(Part I discussed definitions of the female orgasm and the G-Spot)
ACHIEVING ORGASMS: ANOTHER BOUT
It is a given fact that it takes longer for more women to “heat up.” Mishandling by the man in foreplay, stimulation, or even during intercourse, especially when the man has a “wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am” attitude in lovemaking definitely affects the capability of the woman to achieve orgasm. In these cases, the woman should aid herself in heightening sexual arousal and activity by subtly guiding the man how to pleasure her as she pleasures him. She could show by self-masturbation what makes her tick with soft purrings and encouragement of words that convey what she likes and doesn’t like. “A little bit here, honey” or “yes, sweetie, faster” wouldn’t hurt.
A woman could reach sexual climax through stimulating herself using her hands and other instruments that could increase libido. Sex toys like vibrators or dildos help a lot whenever the need for its utilization arises. Stimulation of the breasts and nipples and other erogenous zones could bring about orgasm as well. Careful stimulation of the sensitive nerve endings in the perineum [that soft part in between the vaginal opening and the anus in females and in between the scrotal sac and the anus in males] and around the anus could trigger orgasm.
Mental stimulation such as reading erotica or looking at highly erotic visuals could likewise bring about climax without physical stimulation. Non-sexual activities like wearing tight-fitting jeans, rhythmic vibrations of a car stuck in traffic or rubbing of the undergarments in activities that unintentionally invoke genital stimulation could bring about orgasm too and is known as Spontaneous Orgasms.
About 52 percent of women regularly fake orgasms because of the reason that they are not properly stimulated during intercourse, 17 percent have true orgasms and the rest claim to have problems, lack of interest or religious hang-ups as the culprits to not having orgasms.
An open line of communication between partners is still the standing recourse in having gratifying sexual complementariness.
CREATING REALITY FROM SEXUAL ENERGY:
And now, WE HAVE UNTANGLED THE TINGLE. Does it stop there?
No, definitely not.
The act of sex itself is a manifestation of our divine destiny and religion, sad to say, had continued on uneducating the people and misinforming the truth about this very powerful energy that could actually transform into reality from the proper channeling of it.
By the acceptance of this premise, we now know sex to be above than merely for procreation purposes or physical gratification. The energy brought about by the sexual act is creative energy and therefore must be translated into reality for it not to go to waste. This energy should expand the consciousness. The term “losing oneself” is actually a misnomer. One does not “lose oneself”during orgasm, although, shallowly, it may look like it. In truth, all the senses become acute at the onset of orgasm. All psychic powers are magnified during this moment.
Create a picture of the reality in your mind’s eye; lottery numbers, a grand finale to a much worked on project or simply your good health, your partner and your family. Breathe deeply to make you relaxed and see this reality, in the present tense, in full visual preconditioning, then say it, breathe into it and tuck in the recesses of your mind as you continue on the sexual exchange.
Women, in a more relaxed, less-aerobic lovemaking, gain so much energy from near-orgasm and orgasm itself against Men who have energy-drain due to ejaculation (ejecting semen out; expelling orgasmic energy through the pelvis) whereas the Woman does not. And so, men should practice control of ejaculation and create instead an INjaculation. A cycle of working up and holding back just to the point of release is actually what we can say as charging up the sexual battery.
Before the moment of release, recall the visions of the reality that you have carefully tucked in your mind. It is kind of hard at first but the more focused you are, the more effective it would be. At the moment of orgasm, channel this orgasmic energy and let it flow into the reality you want to create; keep breathing into it, focusing into it and mentally retain the visuals.
Repetition is reinforcement. In the advent of multiple orgasms, the same reality should be brought up, stored and orgasmic energy once again channeled.
Sex is not just the grinding and gyrating of the loins; it is as well as untangling a fused energy dance of the spirit, the psyche and the body.