Who Is the Modern Man: AskMen’s Great Male Survey

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Who exactly is the modern man? You might be surprised, after hearing the results of AskMen’s 2010 Great Male Survey, held in collaboration with Cosmopolitan magazine’s Great Female Survey. It turns out that as we enter the second decade of the twenty-first century, the modern man is actually more traditional than most of us would expect him to be, and surprisingly more old-fashioned in his values than his female counterpart.

Over 85 percent of men still believe in the institution of marriage, with one out of three males stating that they would not pursue a relationship if they felt their partner didn’t have wife potential. Men also ranked “having a family” as the number one status symbol, above having a “high profile career.” On the flip side, more than half of the women surveyed insisted that they do not feel pressured by family or society to tie the knot by a certain age, or even at all. Also of note, 85 percent of the women said they would be comfortable being in a relationship with a man who has a lower income than they do.

Despite all this, four out of five men still believe that they should pay for all dates, for the duration of the relationship or at least until it’s established. On the other hand, less than 25 percent of women said that their partner should always pick up the bill.

While men and women are becoming more and more on par in terms of salary, we’re still negotiating what that means in terms of our personal relationships. Should a man pick up the bill more than a woman? Is the rent divided in half? Maybe it’s not about money after all and more about opening the door. Despite how far we’ve come in terms of equality, there’s always an argument to be made for chivalry.

Other Survey Highlights

  • Prenups are more important for younger guys. 20 percent of men under the age of twenty-nine think they are either very or somewhat important, versus 10 percent of guys over twnenty-nine.

  • Twice as many women, compared to men, have admitted to cheating on their partners. However, more than two times as many men than women would cheat on their partners if they could get away with it.

  • Only one out of five women would dump their partner if they became fat. Men, on the other hand, show no such restraint with nearly half admitting their disdain for up-sized girlfriends.

  • The majority of men are still uncomfortable about their partner friending exes on Facebook, with 34 percent absolutely against the idea and another 26 percent only ok with the idea if they have met the ex before.

  • One out of three guys have met a woman online.

  • Nearly 40 percent of women report that their boyfriends or husbands are “not very often” or “never” romantic, yet 75 percent of men claim that they are romantic consistently.

See the results of the Great Male Survey at
See the results of the Great Female Survey at


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